Most people feel that a Break-up is the end of their life.There is so much life to live after a heartbreak but some people think to end up your life by taking wrong decisions .To be strong during break up is somewhat hard only, but it is not impossible. You can change the impossible to possible by bringing out little changes in your mind set. That’s so simple as that. Break up is normal happening these days and you should be well prepared to accustom whatever the worst comes in your life because you never know what will happen at the next second in your life. If you are ready to handle this situation this article will help to find ways of handling the same in a positive manner.
Set right your mind. Understand that pain is normal to all and you are not the exemption for that. Accept the pain and adjust your mind set according to the situation. You are not the only person in the world who experienced break up and there is more and more number of persons waiting in the court queue daily for their separation legally. Whatever the case it may be, from just married couples who lived together for just 2 or 3 months to long lived couples for 20 or 30 years. So you should not feel that you are the unique in this world struggling worse. There are many more known/unknown cases that are even worse than you. This is true and you should believe it
Let the sorrow be out from your mind in the form of tears. Recent Research tells,” Those who cries a lot in their sadness relieves quickly than those who didn’t cry”. So, don’t feel shy to cry. If you keep your sorrows within you dumping in the brain itself, it increases the pressure, affects your nervous systems which in turn make you sick. Cry loud and release your sorrow to go off from you. Try someone’s shoulder that you can trust. Allow your tears to shed and be feel relaxed
Identifying and find the root cause
Imagine you and your girl friend are dating for the last 4 or 5 years and consider the terrible situation that you two have been break up recently somehow or other due to some reasons. It’s really pathetic..Know? Maximum Try to convince her for the thing which made you for break up. Be honest in your reason and don’t ever try to cheat the lady love. It’s not good for a healthy life. Tell her that error is human nature. Promise her for not repeating the same mistake. Not only the same mistake, try to mostly avoid any kind of mistake which hurts her. Most probably she will be convinced if both of you have a good understanding. Speak with her open heartedly. Most of the problem in this world will be solved if both the side’s views are spoken clearly without any ego. Even problem between two countries is solved by UNO just by conversation and by examining their views. Or otherwise it will lead to war between two countries. If a war can be stopped by mutual and open discussion why not yours. So try definitely you will be succeeded
Analyze your inner thought
Breakups can make you to doubt your self worth. It may make you to feel “You are useless and fit for nothing” or “you are the victim and this breakup will ruin your life”. Remember these are your own feeling and most probably these things are not as true as you feel. Worldly things are different from your inner feel. Sometimes it is totally controversial. Change your mind to think as “This is not my fault” and “You are in pain now and Anyway it will be OK shortly “.
Think about the positive and good character you have. Think about any help you did to your friend and his appreciation how supportive you are?
Avoid violence activity like punching the door, hitting the car, breaking the glass or even tearing the pillow. It will not definitely going to solve your problem and it increase your anger and pressure only.
Distract your mind
Don’t going on thinking about the past thing-the breakup. What happened is happened only. You are not going to rewind back to the Past and set right the things. However it is not possible also to restructure a thing which happened in the past since time can’t be brought back. Instead allow your mind to concentrate on creative things . Keep yourself busy.
If you know painting, try to paint a natural scene with mountains and rivers. Paint a smiling baby face. It decreases your tension.
Write a poem on your own. Don’t care about the grammar mistake. As per medical studies, Writing cut down your tension and stress into half
Hear Good music. Listening to music throws away all your depression and makes you fresh
Go to a pub and dance. Dancing skill makes both your body and mind active
Read nice books. Reading self confidence books will boost your energy.
Don’t again and again feel about the break up only and try to distract the mind to any of the above said thing since distraction is the immediate medicine which will heal the mind wound and relieves pain
Positive self improvement Quotes
The result of break up surely makes you to feel unworthy and making negative things to enter your mind. You may think “You are unlucky or your life is full of destruction and sorrows or success is far away from your life” .Don’t let this type of things in your mind. Paste the following proverbs in the hand wash mirror, windows or doors
You are the special person in the world and you are here to achieve something in the world
You are capable and nobody is equivalent to you
God is always with you and you can do anything with his blessings
You are here to make wonder in the world
Nobody will replace your position and you are such a valuable person
You are lovable and caring and many more people need you
Stick these messages wherever possible and often see this
Throw away the mementos and gifts
Get rid of your ex’s things you have. Throw it off to dustbin. Do you think holding your ex’s photo or any gift with you will change the situation. Past is past. It will hold you from healing and not allow moving on. Don’t visit places where you used to meet your ex. identify a new date spot and try to form new relationship.
Never try to contact your Ex. Delete his/her phone number from the contact list.
Remember keeping things of a relationship you don’t have any more will nothing to do
Stay away from phone. Block the contact. Don’t look up the pages in social media.
Exercise is the best way to vent of tension and stress. Regular exercise will keep you to stay fit and calm. Endorphins which released in brain during exercise makes you feel happy. Allot at least 30 minutes time daily.
Travel and stay outdoors
Meet your friends and plan for an outing. Go to hill station. Have a nice bath in waterfalls. Go for a trekking. Light campfire and sing your favorite song with friends. A change of place will definitely bring you a change in mind state. Enjoy the nature up to the full swing. Laugh with your friends as Laughter is the best medicine for pain.
Go to Spa and change your hair style. By changing the hairstyle you really get a new look. Keep in mind this new look should be in the way which should boost your confident level.
Join a gym. Bring your physic in shape. Having fit body increases confident within you.
Visit shopping mall and buy a perfect outfit which fits your shape. Try for a new variety which you never wear.
Try to bring a change within you.
Getting a new opportunity and changing your interest over other
Your girl friend/ wife may have breakup with you. Do you think “Life is over just because of this single person?” Get Lesson from this breakup. Understand this is just a part of life. Also remember he/she is not the exact pair may be and that’s why you met with break up without mutual understanding. Utilize the opportunity. Now you are free and you may get a chance to find out a real apt pair for you. Identify a person who really impresses you as per your taste. Do you think that your Ex is the single available opposite sex in the world for your love or to live together? There are plenty of people who will love you even better than your Ex. Start a new happy life