If you are wondering whether it is possible to attract a woman and make her approach and talk to you without you first initiating a conversation with them …then,You have come to the right place and i have a lot to talk about it.Yes,it is not only possible but also beneficial since it saves you a lot of effort in getting them interested in you later on after getting them to initiate a conversation with you and talk to you.Since,they initiated the talk, you can drive the conversation in any direction you want to.Also it means that they already consider you desirable or at least a likable Person and you don’t have to try hard to impress them.But all these only if you succeed in attracting them and make them talk to you…Right?
I know it is much easier to attract girls by initiating the conversation with them and impress them with your words but in that case you have taken the responsibility of leading the conversation and entertaining them.Indirectly you have let them qualify whether you are good enough for them instead of making them wonder whether they are good enough for you.
There can be thousand reasons for why you don’t want to first talk to them .Anything from shyness to not wanting to be seen as a flirt,but whatever it is you will succeed in making him/her approach you and talk to you if you follow the strategies discussed here.
So let’s get down to the basics first without further fluff talk
1.Install the Positive Attitude/Mindset
Say this to yourself until you convince yourself without any self doubts.”I am irresistible and no one but me can make people feel the way i can make them feel.They deserve me if they talk to me and keep me interested”
If you have low self esteem or if you are too shy you may ,at first, find it funny to say these affirmation but trust me this first step cannot be overstepped and you will start to believe the fact that you deserve to be approached by the members of opposite sex or people in general eventually.If you don’t want to take this first step you have only two other options.
a.Grow some courage and learn to approach and talk to people you are interested in. (OR)
b.Go and Play video Games.
2.Master the soul grabbing Smile:
If you are still reading i assume you have either agreed with me that the first step of Installing the ‘I am irresistible’ mindset is mandatory for your success in getting people come and talk to you or you are just reading this post for entertainment.Either way ‘Entertain Yourself’.
So how to get that smile that grabs souls?Have you watched anyone smile and suddenly they appeared more beautiful and sexy than ever before? Smile is a universal gesture to make you appear more Friendly and approachable.The Trick is to learn to smile with your eyes.Stand in front of the mirror and practice giving your best attractive smile but just concentrate on your eyes and see it smile too.If it doesn’t smile back at you just imagine that it does .
If you think smiling at others is just a plain idea and not a magical thing that can make others approach you and talk to you then think again.One of my readers commented that that i changed his love life forever by mastering my ‘Soul grabbing Smile’ technique.I was as septic as you and i asked him to tell me more about it.Below is what he told me and it made me realize that i made more sense to someone who is more sensible than me.
“Although i am decent looking and young,I had approach anxiety and never had the guts to go and talk to women whom i found interesting.When i read your Tip about ‘Mastering the soul Grabbing smile’ i did the exercise a few days and the next day i was listening to a song in my iphone with just one earbud in my right ear.I was sitting in a waiting room to catch a Train and a Attractive girl walked towards the seat next to me.I pretended not to notice her coming but when she was very near i looked up and did my ‘Soul Grabbing smile’.I could see that She was confused by the look in her eyes but she eventually recovered and said ‘Do you know me?’.I removed the earbud from my ear and said ‘Oh.Sorry i was listening to a song and the lyrics made me so high that i was smiling like a fool’.The conversation continued since she wanted to know more about the lyrics and i was prepared with what to say next.”
OK.Now i bet that it makes sense to you.With the Right attitude and adding your own twists and you can take a common Tip that you can find anywhere in the internet and Turn it in to such a powerful Technique that is foolproof. Till then i am here to spoon feed you!
3.Learn Instant Rapport Techniques:
The first thirty seconds of the meeting with women is very crucial since it plays a decisive role in how your relationship is going to take shape.It is very essential to gain rapport with women as soon as possible.There are many Instant Rapport gaining Techniques that will make you attractive in the eyes of the women.
Mirroring:Mirroring is the process of subtly imitating the body language,speech pattern and attitude of your target so that the women consider you similar to herself which subconsciously builds a attraction or friendship between you. It will be much more easier to try this with someone and see if it works for you or not instead of trying to understand how it works.
4.Learn to Read People’s Body language and Non Verbal communication
Often times a girl may be interested in you but she will never communicate it verbally.Instead she will telegraph her likeness for you using subtle non verbal cues and gestures.If you are not able to read these subtle messages you are missing out on lot of opportunities that come your way.These missed opportunities maybe the difference between your success and your failure,so,it’s really important to develop your skills to read what goes on inside people’s mind.Once this skill is mastered it will not only help in your love life but will also be a very effective tool to have in your work life and even in home.
5.Communicate your interest to her Non verbally.
Likewise when you learn to use non verbal communication skills to your advantage you can covertly send signals about what your intentions are without having to express it verbally.
6.Eye Contact with women.
If there is one thing you have to learn to attract someone and make them approach you without you uttering a single word then it would be learning the correct way to make eye contact,maintaining it and flirting with eye contact with women.There are some great techniques to get eye contact with women and it would take a book on its own if everything has to be explained but here are some of the handpicked ones that you can put to use right away.
Bull’s Eye technique:
If you are shy,anxious or uncomfortable in holding a eye lock with a women then you are at a disadvantageous position.Women expect men to look them in their eyes and they consider it as a sign of a confident man and they see men who avoid eye contact with them as weak.But Bull’s Eye Technique is available for you just to overcome this problem.If you are uncomfortable to look in to the eyes and gaze her soul then you can just look her in the place between her eyes where the Nose touches the forehead.Imagine you are just looking at her where her third eye would be.When done correctly women would get the impression that you are looking at them in their eyes while you will not be feeling any discomfort.Even though this technique is very effective i would recommend you to just use it in the beginning but start looking in the eyes later once you start to feel comfortable.
Triangular Gaze:Once you start feeling comfortable at locking a eye contact without taking your eyes off then you can proceed to master the Triangular Gaze.After holding eye to eye contact when she is still looking at you make a quick glance to their lips.Let your eyes rest for a couple of seconds on her lips the next time.This Technique will turn on the heat in her and will let her know that you mean business and that she cannot friend zone you.