What does it mean when someone avoids eye contact with you-Find the Reasons by Reading Body language

Do you find that generally people are looking away and seem to avoid holding direct eye contact with you either while talking to you or when you are meeting them for the day and just trying to say hello to them?And you are here to find the reason?Honestly,If you want to find the answer to why someone in particular is avoiding eye contact with you the possibilities are almost endless!The good news is that i will be trying to cover almost all possibilities and if you relate it to your particular context you will most likely find the correct reason why they act like that and you can also do something about it.

Avoiding eye contact-BodyLanguage
Avoiding eye contact-BodyLanguage

Firstly,if you have already established a good rapport,trust and relationship with someone who is avoiding looking you in your eye the best option available to you is asking them smoothly why they are not looking at you and try to get a direct answer from them.This approach is very direct and straight forward in theory but watch out  for some pitfalls when you practically implement it.For Starters people don’t give a direct answer or they lie and way led you and thus will make you spend your time and effort in waste.Then,some people get offended when someone directly ask them why they are not looking eye to eye.Recently i happened to introduce my niece to my neighbor John,who is a Jerk by anybody’s standards.He was much older than her and he was saying stuff like why blondes are dumb and talked in a condescending manner.While we were about to part our ways he remarked ‘You were even not able to look me in my eyes’ and my niece shot back with ‘I can look at someone when there is something nice to look at!’. My neighbor was clearly embarrassed and i was having a hard time controlling my smile.By the way,when i asked my niece why she acted that way she said that though she didn’t find him physically repulsive she didn’t like his condescending conversation and wanted to get away as soon as possible.The takeaway from this incident is that i have the following Point to share with everyone.

The following are the list of reasons for someone to look away or to avoid eye contact with you.

1.If someone is looking away and not locking eye contact with you during a Conversation that may be because they are not feeling comfortable with the Topic of the conversation.

So the next time you want to make someone who is looking away to look at your face while you are talking, just change the topic of your conversation and see if you are getting any positive feedback.It is highly likely that the target will look in to your eyes when your topic is interesting to them.There is also another technique to test if they are avoiding eye contact really because they are not comfortable with what you are saying.When they are looking away just say something with their name in it and check if they start looking at you and hold the eye contact for several more moments or not.If someone looks at you when you call their name and immediately away then it is a sure sign that they are feeling uncomfortable with something.For example if you are talking about your supporting views on the recent immigration laws to Billy and you notice Billy is looking away you can test if he is uncomfortable with the topic by saying ‘Do you agree?Billy’ and still you don’t get much eye contact from Billy then that may probably mean that billy holds opposite views and it is much better to change the topic if you want to get further rapport with Billy.

2.If someone is looking away and not locking eye contact with you that may be because they don’t like you.

3.If someone is looking away and not locking eye contact with you that may be because they are shy or feeling anxious or having low self esteem.

4.If someone is not looking at you while talking to you they may be feeling guilty for something that they did or going to do to you or they are hiding something from you.

You can’t say that someone is lying or hiding something from you with 100% certainty just because they are not looking you straight in the eye but watch out for some of the below body language that may accompany avoiding eye contact to confirm for sure.

  • Hands touching the neck or the mouth regions.Some People even cover their mouth with fingers.
  • Touching their own nose.The hands involuntarily tries to cover the mouth but people become conscious and will try to avert it thus landing the hands on the nose area.
  • Scratching the back of the neck and rubbing of the eyes.

5.People Generally avoid eye contact when they are bored or disinterested or they are distracted with something else.

How to stop yelling and shouting at kids-STOP Snapping At Your Kids

Okay!So,you do shout and yell at your kids but you want to stop snapping at your child after seeing their hurtful face and that makes you feel Guilty.You make a resolution that you are going to STOP your yelling and shouting but that doesn’t lost long because you snap again and shout at your kids and your neighbors say you are a bad dad.You analyze what went wrong and you point at your kid and say ‘I wanted to be a good dad but ….you made me do it’

He Made Me do it
He Made Me do it

What you read above may not apply 100% to you but it did for me until i learned to reduce all the Yelling and shouting to a point that kids think i am a better dad,now.So you can start researching for techniques to stop snapping at your kids or you can learn some of the things i learned as i share my own research and experimentation with my kids.

If you really want to stop all the yelling you have to stop  snapping and for that you have to take responsibility for your temper and your state of mind.By pointing your finger at your Kids and saying ‘You made me shout at you’ you are giving the power to control you to your kids.

1.Ask yourself if your Shouting and yelling has made your kids to change their negative attitude.

2.Your Kids will Model you and will start to Yell and shout at others.And you will get more Mad and start to shout at them more.Stop this vicious cycle.

3.Next time when your child does something and you are about to exhaust your last drop of patience…Calmly say “Will you listen to me and do something for me if i say it affectionately instead of shouting and yelling at you?” .There is no 100% guarantee that your kid will suddenly become a angel and start listening to you but there is a very good change.If your child is too tough for this,well,there are more than one way to calm your children.

Eyes looking down to their left.What this body Language mean?

You are traveling on a long distance Train and you are feeling bored and look at the person sitting opposite to you with the intention of starting a conversation with them.You realize that your co traveler is not noticing that you are looking at them but she is looking down with her eyes to her left.You are wondering what is going on inside her head because you know that only when she is in the right state of mind she will be open to respond to you and will hold a conversation with you.Now,we cannot exactly predict what she is thinking inside her head but what if we can deduce what is going on inside her head? Trust me,when you can read a person’s body language and understand what emotional state they are feeling inside, you have a great edge when it comes to persuading them to take a action you want them to take.The ability to predict a person’s state of mind will help you not just in your relationship but also in your business and work life by getting you instant rapport with clients.

Eyes Looking down to their left
Eyes Looking down to their left

Back in the days when i started to learn the meaning of the eye cues,one of the problems i faced is,the confusion between Right and Left.When i searched for ‘Body Language Meaning of Girl looking down to the left’ in half of the websites there were images with eyes looking in one direction while in the others the eyes were looking in the other direction.The more i tried to understand which is ‘right’ and which is ‘left’ the more confusing it became.I was feeling frustrated till one day i understood everything clearly.If you don’t have any confusion between the person’s left and right i would suggest you to skip the next paragraph and learn what you came here for originally, to understand the meaning of eyes looking down to the left.However if you are confused like i was then the next Paragraph is very important and i want you to read it Carefully.

The secret is in the word ‘Their‘. Look at the image of the girl in the picture above.The Girl is almost looking at the floor and her eyes  are to ‘HER’ left.Look at the text below the image ‘Eyes looking down to Their left’.Here we should be looking from her point of view.In some websites they translate this to your point of view and they talk about ‘Eyes looking down to your left’ or simply ‘Eyes looking down to the Left’.Here they are talking from your Perspective.I wish i could explain this more clearly but i think this would do to clear some doubts in your mind.

When a right handed Person is looking down with their eyes to their left it means that at that moment they are having a serious self Talk.If i were to explain the position of their eyes without showing any pictures i would say that It is almost as if they are looking at their own left knee or Toes.

What else we can deduce apart from the fact that they are in Self Talk?

We all have a voice inside our head that speaks to us in our Primary language.When we are having such a talk with ourselves our eyes would be unconsciously positioned down looking to our left handed side.If you are a  right handed person you can double check what i said by catching yourself during a self talk.If you are a left handed person your eyes would be looking to the Right handed side during a self talk.Of course there are exceptions but as a thumb rule what i said above holds water and will be accurate in 80% of cases.

 

Family Loyalty-Definition,Examples and why it is Important

Family loyalty is all about the support,commitment and mutual help and trust that exists between members of a family or in a relationship.This relationship can be anything from a Parent-Child relationship to a wife and husband relationship but the common thread that runs around is mutual trust,care and support.

Family loyalty can differ from culture to culture or from country to country and Tradition plays a important role in maintaining Family loyalty among the members of a family.Family is a smaller unit of a society and when there is family loyalty prevailing among its members the family improves and hence the society also benefits and improves.

Filial Obligations-Parent Child Relationship: Filial Obligation is a concept where one person in the family feels a moral obligation for the wellness of the other person and takes good care of them.For Example the Grown up adults in some families feel a sense of duty and commitment and are obligated to their ageing parents by taking good care of them as a repayment for their parents taking care of their them when they were young.This kind of family loyalty is,in most cases,installed in the minds of the children when they watch their parents taking good care of their aged grandparents.In countries and Cultures where more Respect is given to senior citizens we can see this kind of moral obligation among the sons and daughters to take care of their ageing Parents. There is also a natural expectation among such adult children that if they take care of their aging parents then their own kids will take care of them later in future.

Filial Obligations-Husband and Wife Relationships:

In most cultures a man and women entering in to a Marriage as husband and wife,ceremonially take a vow that they will stand by each other for the rest of their lives through good and bad times.So religion and religious ceremonies  are also intended to install family loyalty among its members in some levels.

Family Loyalty between Brothers and siblings

In some cultures it is the responsibility of the brother to safe guard the well being of their sisters,sometimes even after they are married.In almost all cultures when one person faces financial crisis the first person they look up to is their brother.

 

 

 

How to Attract women and make them approach and talk to you without you talking

If you are wondering whether it is possible to attract a woman and make her approach and talk to you without you first initiating a conversation with them …then,You have come to the right place and i have a lot to talk about it.Yes,it is not only possible but also beneficial since it saves you a lot of effort in getting them interested in you later on after getting them to initiate a conversation with you and talk to you.Since,they initiated the talk, you can drive the conversation in any direction you want to.Also it means that they already consider you desirable or at least a likable Person and you don’t have to try hard to impress them.But all these only if you succeed in attracting them and make them talk to you…Right?

I know it is much easier to attract girls by initiating the conversation with them and impress them with your words but in that case you have taken the responsibility of leading the conversation and entertaining them.Indirectly you have let them qualify whether you are good enough for them instead of making them wonder whether they are good enough for you.

There can be thousand reasons for why you don’t want to first talk to them .Anything from shyness to not wanting to be seen as a flirt,but whatever it is you will succeed in making him/her approach you and talk to you if you follow the strategies discussed here.

So let’s get down to the basics first without further fluff talk

1.Install the Positive Attitude/Mindset

Say this to yourself until you convince yourself without any self doubts.”I am irresistible and no one but me can make people feel the way i can make them feel.They deserve me if they talk to me and keep me interested”

If you have low self esteem or if you are too shy you may ,at first, find it funny to say these affirmation but trust me this first step cannot be overstepped and you will start to believe the fact that you deserve to be approached by the members of opposite sex or people in general  eventually.If you don’t want to take this first step you have only two other options.

a.Grow some courage and learn to approach and talk to people you are interested in.  (OR)

b.Go and Play video Games.

2.Master the soul grabbing Smile:

If you are still reading i assume you have either agreed with me that the first step of Installing the ‘I am irresistible’ mindset is mandatory for your success in getting people come and talk to you or you are just reading this post for entertainment.Either way ‘Entertain Yourself’.

So how to get that smile that grabs souls?Have you watched anyone smile and suddenly they appeared more beautiful and sexy than ever before? Smile is a universal gesture to make you appear more Friendly and approachable.The Trick is to learn to smile with your eyes.Stand in front of the mirror and practice giving your best attractive smile but just concentrate on your eyes and see it smile too.If it doesn’t smile back at you just imagine that it does .

If you think smiling at others is just a plain idea and not a magical thing that can make others approach you and talk to you then think again.One of my readers commented that that i changed his love life forever by mastering my ‘Soul grabbing Smile’ technique.I was as septic as you and i asked him to tell me more about it.Below is what he told me and it made me realize that i made more sense to someone who is more sensible than me.

“Although i am decent looking and young,I had approach anxiety and never had the guts to go and talk to women whom i found interesting.When i read your Tip about ‘Mastering the soul Grabbing smile’ i did the exercise a few days and the next day i was listening to a song in my iphone with just one earbud in my right ear.I was sitting in a waiting room to catch a Train and a Attractive girl walked towards the seat next to me.I pretended not to notice her coming but when she was very near i looked up and did my ‘Soul Grabbing smile’.I could see that She was confused by the look in her eyes but she eventually recovered and said ‘Do you know me?’.I removed the earbud from my ear and said ‘Oh.Sorry i was listening to a song and the lyrics made me so high that i was smiling like a fool’.The conversation continued since she wanted to know more about the lyrics and i was prepared with what to say next.”

OK.Now i bet that it makes sense to you.With the Right attitude and adding your own twists and you can take a common Tip that you can find anywhere in the internet and Turn it in to such a powerful Technique that is foolproof. Till then i am here to spoon feed you!

3.Learn Instant Rapport Techniques:

The first thirty seconds of the meeting with women is very crucial since it plays a decisive role in how your relationship is going to take shape.It is very essential to gain rapport with women as soon as possible.There are many Instant Rapport gaining Techniques that will make you attractive in the eyes of the women.

Mirroring:Mirroring is the process of subtly imitating the body language,speech pattern and attitude of your target so that the women consider you similar to herself which subconsciously builds a attraction or friendship between you. It will be much more easier to try this with someone and see if it works for you or not instead of trying to understand how it works.

4.Learn to Read People’s Body language and Non Verbal communication

Often times a girl may be interested in you but she will never communicate it verbally.Instead she will telegraph her likeness for you using subtle non verbal cues and gestures.If you are not able to read these subtle messages you are missing out on lot of opportunities that come your way.These missed opportunities maybe the difference between your success and your failure,so,it’s really important to develop your skills to read what goes on inside people’s mind.Once this skill is mastered it will not only help in your love life but will also be a very effective tool to have in your work life and even in home.

5.Communicate your interest to her Non verbally.

Likewise when you learn to use non verbal communication skills to your advantage you can covertly send signals about what your intentions are without having to express it verbally.

6.Eye Contact with women.

If there is one thing you have to learn to attract someone and make them approach you without you uttering a single word then it would be learning the correct way to make eye contact,maintaining it and flirting with eye contact with women.There are some great techniques to get eye contact with women and it would take a book on its own if everything has to be explained but here are some of the handpicked ones that you can put to use right away.

Bull’s Eye technique:

If you are shy,anxious or uncomfortable in holding a eye lock with a women then you are at a disadvantageous position.Women expect men to look them in their eyes and they consider it as a sign of a confident man and they see men who avoid eye contact with them as weak.But Bull’s Eye Technique is available for you just to overcome this problem.If you are uncomfortable to look in to the eyes and gaze her soul then you can just look her in the place between her eyes where the Nose touches the forehead.Imagine you are just looking at her where her third eye would be.When done correctly women would get the impression that you are looking at them in their eyes while you will not be feeling any discomfort.Even though this technique is very effective i would recommend you to just use it in the beginning but start looking in the eyes later once you start to feel comfortable.

Triangular Gaze:Once you start feeling comfortable at locking a eye contact without taking your eyes off then you can proceed to master the Triangular Gaze.After holding eye to eye contact when she is still looking at you make a quick glance to their lips.Let your eyes rest for a couple of seconds on her lips the next time.This Technique will turn on the heat in her and will let her know that you mean business and that she cannot friend zone you.

Good Responses and Comebacks for Leave us alone or Go away or get lost

Fear of Rejection is the greatest fear preventing may men and women from being more social and outgoing.In fact it is the single most thing that drives early teenagers to grow up as shy adults.Imagine how it would feel like when such a person tries to crawl out of their shell by approaching a group or a person and gets greeted by ‘Leave me alone’ or ‘Go away!’ .When a person takes such rude and nasty remarks to heart it will wreck their social confidence.

Comeback to leave-me-alone
Comeback to leave-me-alone

So when you approach someone with good intentions of joining them or their group in a conversation or a game but instead get the door slammed in your face with the typical rude ‘Leave me alone!’ or ‘Go away!’ or the more cruel ‘Get Lost’ responses….Then,Trust me,You need a comeback just to save your face and keep your ego intact.

Here are a list of Good Responses and Comebacks for Leave us alone or Go away or get lost

1) Are you like this with everybody, or just with people cooler than you?
2) Tell your friend that she has a white thinghy sticking out of her nose.

(This has to be said to the friend of the person who told you to get lost.
3) Now I understand now why you are lonely(without friends) in the party.

(When someone asks you to ‘Leave me alone’)
4) You guys are Mean.

5)Okay…ok.I understand that you are having a bad day.

6)Oh sorry…I never thought that you guys were in the middle of a date.

(Means multiple things.Best to be used when Two guys or two girls were asking you to leave them alone)

Finally a few parting points.Your comeback or response need not be mean it should just make you feel better after saying it without inviting trouble.If you can keep your ego unhurt after hearing a ‘Get lost’ or ‘Go away’ without a need to say a comeback or response then it is the ultimate thing,But till then hope these comebacks will help you do the job.

Writers Block cure-Just one Japanese Technique to overcome your writers Block

Last time when i was struggling with writer’s block i searched internet for some techniques to overcome it and many of results were like…’101 ways to overcome your writers block’. After reading through thousands of those tips that was useless i almost developed ‘Reader’s block’ and stopped looking for effective ways to start writing again.

Technique to overcome writers block
Technique to overcome writers block

One day while aimlessly watching youtube videos i came across this uncut Gem of a Technique that worked like a magic to crush my writing blocks and helped me to write again like before.Actually the Techniques was titled as ‘Japanese technique to get rid of your laziness’. Even before reading the technique my first thoughts were that i could use it to overcome my writers block problem since it is also a type of procrastination. And when i read the full technique it made full sense to me and it just reinforced my belief.

Let me first explain you about the Japanese Technique or the ‘Keizen’ technique as they call it and then will tell you how to apply it for crushing your writers block.

Kaizen, also known as continuous improvement, is a long-term approach to work that systematically seeks to achieve small, incremental changes in processes in order to improve efficiency and quality.Sounds complicated Right? Okay check out the simplified version of this Technique.When you are making a new change in you life we tend to procrastinate doing the needed work to the next day and finally it will get accumulated and most people will quit eventually.The change you set out to achieve can be any thing like working out to get fitter and in shape or Improving your life style but the basic technique is the same.Everyday just do the work needed to achieve your goal for just one minute a day.You can work as many hours you may want to but don’t let a day go without doing the task for at least one minute a day.That’s all to it to the simplified version of the Kaizen Technique.

Seems very simple right? But there are a lot of complicated psychological reasons for it’s effectiveness in helping someone achieving their Goal.

So how do i translate this technique to cure Writers block?

Writers_Block_Cure
Writers_Block_Cure

 

Conversational Hypnosis Techniques with Practical examples in Real Life

  • You take it in silently when your nosy Coworker tries to dominate you and acts as if he is your Boss. You convince yourself that staying silent is the wise thing to do in that situation.
  • You wonder why random Strangers you meet outdoors in Streets,supermarkets and malls etc.. Stare at you ,intrude in to your personal space,cut before you in queues ,or just act rude around you …
  • You feel you are invisible to others in social situations and during conversations people focus on talking with those accompanying you but they completely ignore you and you end up feeling self conscious about what you are doing there and you start to plan how to get out of there.
  • You are anxious about meeting new People or having conversations with People.You think people will judge you.You run out of things to say and end up in awkward silences.You think your communication skill sucks.

Yet..you have always wanted to…

  • Have the subtle language skills to make that Coworker leave you alone and make him run with his tail between his legs.
  • Get Respect and friendly vibes from People that you meet in public places.Make Bartenders, receptionists,waiters and other Clerical people treat you like a VIP while leaving others to wait till they finish giving you their undivided attention.
  • Make the opposite sex want to approach you and start conversations with you.
  • And when you finally talk back to them, you can make them laugh and let them feel what you want them to feel, and lead them in to a deep trance by giving them the experience of their lifetime… all in the course of a normal conversation.
  • And many more…
Conversational Hypnosis Techniques
Conversational Hypnosis Techniques

You may have personally known or seen someone who can instantly befriend anyone and talk their way in to and out of any situation you can imagine.They are the naturals and they have developed their people skills over a period of their lifetime watching and learning from successful and influential people they are growing around with.And then there are People like me,The Testers,who are not genetically blessed with influential parents and had to learn everything from scratch from self Help stuff. It requires a lot of time and money to test and find out which techniques work  in the real world and which ones don’t.

Problem is most Self Help methods that actually work in real life come with a very high price tag in the form of  boot-camps and Private seminars organized for rich clients like Businessmen and corporate executives .And even in these courses they add a lot of useless advice and techniques that will distract you.

Technically what separates ‘What you are now’ from ‘The Person you want to become’ is just the knowledge of a handful of skills and techniques and a series of steps you need to take.And some Time.

Get access to my Personal Notes i wrote in my Journey to as i transformed myself  from a shy teen to someone with the forbidden People skills. Some of these are derived from Underground Seminars on Dating ,Psychology,NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Conversational Hypnosis that are meant for the elite few.These are shared by me and some of our members/Moderators who had the Time and money and passion to spend on these seminars.

What if you get to access to the techniques and experiences of People who are trying to attain similar goals like yours? How fun it would be to Interact and learn from them and put those techniques in your real life and make it work for you?

What if you have a Personal coach who would initiate you in just the needed People skills that you need to know to achieve your Goal?

The Good news is you can acquire the knowledge you need to develop the People skills you want from the courses and guides in the internet.Some are Free and some are paid Products.But the issue is there are a lot of useless advice and techniques floating around that will distract you and waste years of your time and money before you finally find your way to your Goal.

It took us seven years.We were a group of people each with a different goal towards self Development.Some had the money to spend to Attend Underground Seminars on Dating ,Psychology,NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Conversational Hypnosis that are meant for the elite few and they shared their knowledge with us.Some contributed by putting the knowledge in to practice in the real world and sharing field reports with us.We functioned like a well oiled machinery but still it took seven years because there is so much myths and useless junk floating around before you can lay your hands on that ‘Golden nugget’ of information that really works in the Real world out there.

Every columbus doesn’t have to discover america.We give you the map.

NLP Instant Rapport Techniques

This is my Personal method or Trick or Technique to to Build Instant Rapport with Anyone
I presume that… like me you would also want to cut the fluff talk and dive in straight to the meat of the Techniques while you are learning this new skill. I was not that lucky because I had to wade through a lot of junk methods that wasted my time and energy before finding a few Gems that I could practically use in my Real life effectively and benefit from it. Good News is you will have the Knowledge delivered in a silver plate. My only concern is People sometimes tend to take the worth of things lightly if they get access to stuff easily but my only option is to believe that you are wiser to know that.

Instant Rapport Techniques
Instant Rapport Techniques

Firstly I want to tell you how I accidentally discovered this working technique about how to Build Instant Rapport with Anyone from a old Persuasion and Influence course. During my teen years I had speech related problems and by the time I crossed my teenage I became a extremely introverted shy young man. I overcame my speech impediment in my early Twenties and I was able to talk normally to people. Yet I could not come out of my shyness. When I go out I felt that I was socially invisible(Many times I would ask somebody something and they would completely ignore me ) and that is when I started to learn a lot of Self Help stuff, mostly Persuasion and Influence related stuff. I came across this old Recording of a Seminar where they claimed that they have a covert Technique that can help anyone develop a instant Rapport. I knew that I have to take this Method seriously and put it to test in my Real life and make it work simply because they talked about this one technique in the whole video.

Before we dig in deeper I want you to touch base on the basic Principles of this technique. It would be good if you agree with the following fundamental statements.
People like people who are like them.
Sounds so plain and True Right? Ok. If you agree with that statement the next step is to make anyone think that you are very much like them. That too we have to insert that idea in to their head in a couple of seconds we have while meeting them in a real life scenario. But HOW TO DO THAT?
I have took that idea from that seminar and add a few more working gems I already know and then Tested it and Tuned it and Optimized it and used and abused it …So much that I unconsciously use it every time I meet someone to make them unconsciously like me. Remember-I am not doing anything unethical or fancy…I just let them know that I am so much human like them.
Listen to everything I say from here on as they are the actual method. Take your Time to understand and digest it.If you don’t understand anything just ask me and I will do whatever I can do to drill the method in to your mind.
The following is a Real life scenario where we are going to Apply this Technique to make anyone Like us Instantly

1. When you meet some one… what is the first Thing we do?
When meeting someone…At what exact moment do we actually meet?
Answer: You look at the Person and the Person looks at you. That is when we humanly make our First step in meeting someone. You lock Eye contact. This stage may last only 1-4 seconds.

2. So we make a Eye contact with a Person (There are a dozen Eye contact Techniques to achieve different outcomes but we are not going to look in to any of them now except the one below.)
Eye contact is the first step or the first leap you take in to the Elevator for communicating with Someone.
So, What is the next step that happens when Two People lock a eye to eye contact?
Answer: Two things can happen from here.
a. Either one of them may break the eye contact by looking away.
b. Both of them Move to the Next Step. No! They do not have Verbal Communication Yet.

3. There is a Nonverbal Communication stage we go through after we actually make eye contact and before we Verbally communicate with someone.
This is the stage where we are going to apply our Practical Psychological Trick

So when two people Lock eye contact and before they say hi…. Or hello…Or Blah blah….They do a non verbal communication Ritual.
Everyone has a Non verbal way to say their hello before they Actually say their hello.
Some lift one or both their eyebrow.
Some wave their hands slightly.
Some smile in a peculiar way.
Some tilt their head slightly.

Now…can you empathize with what I am saying? If you don’t understand what I am talking about in this Step 3 then when you go out just concentrate and notice and look for this phase when you meet your neighbor…your colleague…your waiter…your billing clerk at the stores.

4. Most of us don’t even recognize this phase of Nonverbal communication signals. When a Person sends their Non verbal signal (a slight tilt of their head or a Grin or a eyebrow raise) we normally either say our verbal Hello or sometimes send our own Non verbal signal.
For example you are in your favorite restaurant and the waiter approaches you…Both of you lock eye contact….he lifts his eyebrows slightly…And you put a grin on your face…and you ask him the Menu.
The waiter is not going to like you instantly. He is not going to give his best service for you.

In your next table I am sitting comfortably. The waiter Approaches me…we lock eye contact… he does his standard lift of his eyebrows …I just copy him and lift my eyebrows the same way he did…then smile….and ask him the Menu…

I have already done my Trick. On a deeper level the waiter would be thinking that I am like him in some ways….he would like me…He would give his undivided attention and service to me, listen every word I say.
From the next table you yell ‘Waiter! just a minute’. The waiter won’t turn until I finish my conversation with him. You will be left to wonder why he is treating the Guy in the next table like a VIP and why you are invisible to him.

5. Because subconsciously at a deeper lever he perceives me as his friend(Since I matched his Non verbal Hello gesture) and you as different(since you have a different Non verbal Hello gesture).
To Summarize:
When meeting someone immediately after the initial eye contact everyone will do their non verbal gesture. It can be a slight tilt of the head, a nod, or Grin or a thousand other things. In reply our natural tendency is to do our own Non verbal gesture, which will make the other person see us different. Instead if we copy the Other Person’s non verbal gesture he will perceive us as his friend and will develop a likeness for you instantly.
Just Test this technique on random persons you meet in your real life and feel the sense of influence you exert on people. You are now empowered with the hidden knowledge of the elite few powerful people.
It is up to you to use it to the best of everybody involved.

How to not be socially awkward-Are you socially awkward by Definition

It doesn’t matter whether you are just starting to wonder if you are really socially awkward and questioning yourself ‘am i socially awkward?’ or if you have successfully convinced yourself  that you are socially awkward  long ago,this post is going to be of some help as we are going to take a detailed look from the definition to effective ways to become less socially awkward.

First take this ‘Am i really Socially Awkward’ Test Quiz

1.Do you feel restless or anxious when waiting in public for someone or something?

2.Do you feel that People are staring at you and often check whether people stare at you after doing something in social situations?You have difficulty in making and maintaining eye contact with people?

3.In social gatherings do you feel embarrassed in meeting and mingling with the guests and cling to only few people you are close to?And when your close friend goes to mingle with new people you feel self anxious and conscious and stand there without knowing what to do.

4.When you happen to share your office lift with some one from your work you anxiously wait till the lift reaches the destination to get out of the situation?If some kind of interaction takes place do you rehearse what happened in your mind for the next ten minutes?

5.When you spot someone from your workplace in a public place do you slow down or hurry up your steps to avoid meeting them and if you happen to meet them accidentally you feel socially inept ?

6.In social gatherings where you have the compulsion to interact with others and when you approach people and start communication with others do you feel Ignored? Or do you end up saying things that you should not be saying and spend the rest of the evening mulling over the incident?

7. Are the things you say to others with good intentions get misunderstood and misinterpreted by others and you feel socially inept and awkward?

8.Do you feel lonely and feel you have no meaningful relationship with others except one or two close friends?

9.Do You take a long time to come up with things to say to someone after your initial ‘hi’ and ‘hello’.Do you Run out of things to say in the middle of a conversation and the awkward silences force you to blurt out secrets or things that you are not supposed to say to them…

If you have answered most of the questions with YES or Hell Yes! then you so feel that you have socially awkward issues.Good news is that you can work on it and stop feeling awkward sooner with the right techniques and tools.

People with social awkwardness may find it a rough ride navigating the social situations and scenarios life throws at them. It’s like they are a sailor in rough seas who lost his compass.So to find their way out of rough seas and cruise to a happy island all they need is to find a Tool like a compass,or a GPS.NLP has plenty of Tools and Techniques to help overcome social awkwardness some of them so effective that you can see results after a couple of trials.