Rolling eyes -What does it mean when someone rolls their eyes at you

Very few eye cues are as straight forward to interpret as Rolling eyes.Even the dictionary gives a clear cut meaning for ‘rolling eyes’.

Rolling Eyes-to move your eyes around in a circle because someone has said or done something stupid or strange

Now that we have clearly illustrated how a eye rolling will look like with the help of the beautiful model in the above picture and what ‘Rolling eyes’ mean with the dictionary meaning we can move to the other aspects of what ‘eye rolling’ means to the speaker and what it does to the people in the receiving end of it.

Though Teens are the obvious heavy users of the eye rolling gesture many adults also display this behavior though they subtly hide it or stop it in the middle. Both men and women roll their eyes when they want to belittle the speaker for something they said or did.When someone rolls their eyes at you they are doing it as if they are telling  their imaginary audience “look at this guy!He is so annoying and frustrating to talk to.”

Since eye rolling is considered as a direct aggressive gesture and almost all people understand what it really means people generally get mad when they are at the receiving end of this gesture.They may also want to know the ways to respond or comebacks when someone rolls their eyes at them.Let’s analyze the scenario from everyone’s perspective.

Firstly,when someone rolls their eyes at you,you should try to view why they are doing it from their shoes.In defense of the eye roller,they are choosing to say that ‘your are dumb’ non-verbally instead of directly saying it verbally and that itself means that they are showing some consideration to the other person.Sometimes the eye roller may not be in a dominant position to say ‘you are dumb’ and hence expresses it non-verbally.An example may be a store Girl Rolling her eyes at the middle aged man trying to hold on to a personal conversation with her.It will be unfair if we were to tell you should not roll your eyes at your customer.She has to have a way to express herself to let some of her steam and stress out of her,Right?

Now let’s look at the feelings of the person at the receiving end of the Eye roll.Some people go so mad at this gesture that they have openly expressed their urge to punch in the eye of the eye roller.Some people even call out “Did you just roll your eyes at me?” which just induces more eye rolling in return or the answer “What are you talking about” from the eye roller.

Personally i would recommend to ignore the eye rollers and get on with your life.Ask yourself why the eye rolling is making you upset or angry?Try to find the answer and do something to rectify it.However if you insist on a way to respond or to do a comeback i would recommend the following.

Ask them in the most serious way you possibly can “Did something i said bothered or annoyed you because i noticed it in the way you rolled your eyes.Can you help me to correct myself by verbally stating your situation?”. This is the better verbal approach without escalating the situation further.

Another way is to acknowledge their eye roll and let them know you received their gesture well.Let’s say you are talking to a Teenager and you get the ‘Eye Roll’ you stop what you were saying and tell them “Okay…I got it.You are not in a good mood now.

 

Body language sitting with hands between legs -Meaning

Imagine a person,preferably a woman,sitting with both hands pressed together at palms wedged between the legs around the thighs.Can you see her slightly leaning forward and presenting a good view of their upward body? So 90% of people who try to guess her state of mind and the emotions she is going through at the moment will say that she is attracted to someone and she is displaying seductive body language cues.My two cents is that we cannot immediately come to the conclusion that the person is attracted to someone she is listening to,just based on this standalone gesture  alone but it may be true if it is accompanied by other positive signals like dilated pupils and engorged lips and a sly smile and thousand other things that may indicate interest.

You know you are thinking that a picture is worth a thousand ways and we can just post a picture of a Girl sitting with her hands wedged between her thighs and save the thousand words describing the pose.

Girl sitting with hands between legs-Body Language
Girl sitting with hands between legs-Body Language

So this is the sitting position i am talking about.If only the girl in the picture had kept both her feet together in line it would have been a better match for our post. But just imagine that her front leg is also in line with the other leg and her hand position is exactly as it is now.

I wanted to know what my friends thought about this posture and i showed them a few picture and asked for their interpretation of this body language of a girl sitting with hands wedged between her thighs.The following are some of the interesting interpretations or meanings they came up with.

1.She is feeling cold and placed her hands between thighs to feel warm.

2.She has the urge to go to the Restroom and she is holding it back because she is in the middle of a conversation.

3.She is expecting something to happen or waiting for someone and she is waiting anxiously or impatiently.

4.She is nervous about something and she is displaying pacifying behavior and trying to keep her comfortable in a uncomfortable situation.

5.She is trying to hide something and she is restricting her hands between her thighs since she unconsciously fears  that her hands will some movements that will betray her.

6.She is relaxed and is not Self-consciousness and is just enjoying herself.(This personally makes a lot of sense to me and is my Pick too.)

Picture her raising her shoulders almost such that it touches her ears on either side of her head.Seen many poses of women doing this pose in many music videos to show that the actor is relaxed happy and enjoying the environment she is in.It is almost like they are locking in the good feelings they are having at the moment by locking their hands in between their legs.

So what do you think?What makes you more sense to you?Please Comment with your experience with someone sitting in this particular pose.

Pouting lower lip-Body language Meaning

First things first. Let’s first clear out how a pouting lower lip will look like before we learn what all the things this particular body language gesture may mean.The following is a exaggerated version of a child pouting lower lip which i have intentionally selected over other pictures of women with pouting lower lip.The main reason is that women pout their lower lip but they do it very subtly and covertly but small kids make it very obvious when they pout their lower lip to let us know what they are feeling inside.

Pouting lower lip-Body language meaning
Pouting lower lip-Body language meaning

So what is that which a child wants to show us with a obvious pouting lip and a women wants to subtly display to another person with a slight pouting lower lip? The answer is quite obvious if you look at the above picture and answer me what you think is the emotional state of the child is.Take a guess and if you can’t come up with anything,Try again.

Displeasure: A Pouting lower lip may be a gesture to display the displeasure at someone or something.Change the cartoon channel to News channel and you kid may show this gesture or stare at a women who is in no mood to socialize and you may get to see this same gesture,though subtly -so subtly that it may be confused with a perked up lip.

The Irony is,since a woman’s covert Pouting lip resembles a Perked up lip for the untrained eyes most people think that the women is attracted to them and showing flirtatious signals while it actually means the extreme opposite.

Feeling Insulted:When you scold a child for something she did you may seen this gesture.It is a child’s way of saying ‘I am feeling insulted’.

A pouting lip may also mean disappointment, annoyance, sadness, disagreement or uncertainty.

 

 

What does biting your own lip mean-Body language Meaning

Most people assume that  when a person is biting their own lips they are just giving a seductive signal to the opposite sex  near them or talking to them.It may be particularly true when there are other clusters of accompanying flirt signals or if they are checking them out while or before biting their lips but it is unsafe to assume that a lower or upper lip biting indicates interest in the opposite sex ,just as a standalone gesture.Although we would picture a woman when we talk about ‘biting lips’ most men also display this body language to express their romantic interest or to show that they are interested and aroused.

Biting lower lip
Biting lower lip

Having said that biting lips can mean a lot of other things like fear,anxiety or a suppressing action when it is done outside a seduction setting.Bottom lip bite signifies anticipation as opposed to upper lip bite which indicates apprehension or fear that something bad is about to happen.This makes lip biting hard to read.For example you are checking out a women standing close to you and she kind of bites her lower lip.It may be because she is attracted to you and she is giving flirty signals out.It may also mean that she is feeling uncomfortable in the situation she has found herself in and is anxiously biting her lips.When a person feels anxious biting their lips helps them pacify themselves from the stress. Some men and women may have developed lip biting as a habit and they may repeat it again and again when they enter in to some kind of situation or a mental state of mind.Once you figure out what kind of state they are in then you can always guess the time they enter that emotional state just by tracking their lip biting pattern.

Biting the Upper lip Vs Biting the lower lip

Most people bite their lower lip or the below lip but there are some who bite the upper lip also.Biting the upper lip is not generally considered as sexy as biting the lower lip.apprehension.

So analyze the content and context of the situation you are in before analyzing the meaning when someone in your vicinity bites their own lips . With enough practice you can separate out a seductive lip biting from a anxiety based one.

What does it mean when someone avoids eye contact with you-Find the Reasons by Reading Body language

Do you find that generally people are looking away and seem to avoid holding direct eye contact with you either while talking to you or when you are meeting them for the day and just trying to say hello to them?And you are here to find the reason?Honestly,If you want to find the answer to why someone in particular is avoiding eye contact with you the possibilities are almost endless!The good news is that i will be trying to cover almost all possibilities and if you relate it to your particular context you will most likely find the correct reason why they act like that and you can also do something about it.

Avoiding eye contact-BodyLanguage
Avoiding eye contact-BodyLanguage

Firstly,if you have already established a good rapport,trust and relationship with someone who is avoiding looking you in your eye the best option available to you is asking them smoothly why they are not looking at you and try to get a direct answer from them.This approach is very direct and straight forward in theory but watch out  for some pitfalls when you practically implement it.For Starters people don’t give a direct answer or they lie and way led you and thus will make you spend your time and effort in waste.Then,some people get offended when someone directly ask them why they are not looking eye to eye.Recently i happened to introduce my niece to my neighbor John,who is a Jerk by anybody’s standards.He was much older than her and he was saying stuff like why blondes are dumb and talked in a condescending manner.While we were about to part our ways he remarked ‘You were even not able to look me in my eyes’ and my niece shot back with ‘I can look at someone when there is something nice to look at!’. My neighbor was clearly embarrassed and i was having a hard time controlling my smile.By the way,when i asked my niece why she acted that way she said that though she didn’t find him physically repulsive she didn’t like his condescending conversation and wanted to get away as soon as possible.The takeaway from this incident is that i have the following Point to share with everyone.

The following are the list of reasons for someone to look away or to avoid eye contact with you.

1.If someone is looking away and not locking eye contact with you during a Conversation that may be because they are not feeling comfortable with the Topic of the conversation.

So the next time you want to make someone who is looking away to look at your face while you are talking, just change the topic of your conversation and see if you are getting any positive feedback.It is highly likely that the target will look in to your eyes when your topic is interesting to them.There is also another technique to test if they are avoiding eye contact really because they are not comfortable with what you are saying.When they are looking away just say something with their name in it and check if they start looking at you and hold the eye contact for several more moments or not.If someone looks at you when you call their name and immediately away then it is a sure sign that they are feeling uncomfortable with something.For example if you are talking about your supporting views on the recent immigration laws to Billy and you notice Billy is looking away you can test if he is uncomfortable with the topic by saying ‘Do you agree?Billy’ and still you don’t get much eye contact from Billy then that may probably mean that billy holds opposite views and it is much better to change the topic if you want to get further rapport with Billy.

2.If someone is looking away and not locking eye contact with you that may be because they don’t like you.

3.If someone is looking away and not locking eye contact with you that may be because they are shy or feeling anxious or having low self esteem.

4.If someone is not looking at you while talking to you they may be feeling guilty for something that they did or going to do to you or they are hiding something from you.

You can’t say that someone is lying or hiding something from you with 100% certainty just because they are not looking you straight in the eye but watch out for some of the below body language that may accompany avoiding eye contact to confirm for sure.

  • Hands touching the neck or the mouth regions.Some People even cover their mouth with fingers.
  • Touching their own nose.The hands involuntarily tries to cover the mouth but people become conscious and will try to avert it thus landing the hands on the nose area.
  • Scratching the back of the neck and rubbing of the eyes.

5.People Generally avoid eye contact when they are bored or disinterested or they are distracted with something else.

How to stop yelling and shouting at kids-STOP Snapping At Your Kids

Okay!So,you do shout and yell at your kids but you want to stop snapping at your child after seeing their hurtful face and that makes you feel Guilty.You make a resolution that you are going to STOP your yelling and shouting but that doesn’t lost long because you snap again and shout at your kids and your neighbors say you are a bad dad.You analyze what went wrong and you point at your kid and say ‘I wanted to be a good dad but ….you made me do it’

He Made Me do it
He Made Me do it

What you read above may not apply 100% to you but it did for me until i learned to reduce all the Yelling and shouting to a point that kids think i am a better dad,now.So you can start researching for techniques to stop snapping at your kids or you can learn some of the things i learned as i share my own research and experimentation with my kids.

If you really want to stop all the yelling you have to stop  snapping and for that you have to take responsibility for your temper and your state of mind.By pointing your finger at your Kids and saying ‘You made me shout at you’ you are giving the power to control you to your kids.

1.Ask yourself if your Shouting and yelling has made your kids to change their negative attitude.

2.Your Kids will Model you and will start to Yell and shout at others.And you will get more Mad and start to shout at them more.Stop this vicious cycle.

3.Next time when your child does something and you are about to exhaust your last drop of patience…Calmly say “Will you listen to me and do something for me if i say it affectionately instead of shouting and yelling at you?” .There is no 100% guarantee that your kid will suddenly become a angel and start listening to you but there is a very good change.If your child is too tough for this,well,there are more than one way to calm your children.

Eyes looking down to their left.What this body Language mean?

You are traveling on a long distance Train and you are feeling bored and look at the person sitting opposite to you with the intention of starting a conversation with them.You realize that your co traveler is not noticing that you are looking at them but she is looking down with her eyes to her left.You are wondering what is going on inside her head because you know that only when she is in the right state of mind she will be open to respond to you and will hold a conversation with you.Now,we cannot exactly predict what she is thinking inside her head but what if we can deduce what is going on inside her head? Trust me,when you can read a person’s body language and understand what emotional state they are feeling inside, you have a great edge when it comes to persuading them to take a action you want them to take.The ability to predict a person’s state of mind will help you not just in your relationship but also in your business and work life by getting you instant rapport with clients.

Eyes Looking down to their left
Eyes Looking down to their left

Back in the days when i started to learn the meaning of the eye cues,one of the problems i faced is,the confusion between Right and Left.When i searched for ‘Body Language Meaning of Girl looking down to the left’ in half of the websites there were images with eyes looking in one direction while in the others the eyes were looking in the other direction.The more i tried to understand which is ‘right’ and which is ‘left’ the more confusing it became.I was feeling frustrated till one day i understood everything clearly.If you don’t have any confusion between the person’s left and right i would suggest you to skip the next paragraph and learn what you came here for originally, to understand the meaning of eyes looking down to the left.However if you are confused like i was then the next Paragraph is very important and i want you to read it Carefully.

The secret is in the word ‘Their‘. Look at the image of the girl in the picture above.The Girl is almost looking at the floor and her eyes  are to ‘HER’ left.Look at the text below the image ‘Eyes looking down to Their left’.Here we should be looking from her point of view.In some websites they translate this to your point of view and they talk about ‘Eyes looking down to your left’ or simply ‘Eyes looking down to the Left’.Here they are talking from your Perspective.I wish i could explain this more clearly but i think this would do to clear some doubts in your mind.

When a right handed Person is looking down with their eyes to their left it means that at that moment they are having a serious self Talk.If i were to explain the position of their eyes without showing any pictures i would say that It is almost as if they are looking at their own left knee or Toes.

What else we can deduce apart from the fact that they are in Self Talk?

We all have a voice inside our head that speaks to us in our Primary language.When we are having such a talk with ourselves our eyes would be unconsciously positioned down looking to our left handed side.If you are a  right handed person you can double check what i said by catching yourself during a self talk.If you are a left handed person your eyes would be looking to the Right handed side during a self talk.Of course there are exceptions but as a thumb rule what i said above holds water and will be accurate in 80% of cases.

 

Family Loyalty-Definition,Examples and why it is Important

Family loyalty is all about the support,commitment and mutual help and trust that exists between members of a family or in a relationship.This relationship can be anything from a Parent-Child relationship to a wife and husband relationship but the common thread that runs around is mutual trust,care and support.

Family loyalty can differ from culture to culture or from country to country and Tradition plays a important role in maintaining Family loyalty among the members of a family.Family is a smaller unit of a society and when there is family loyalty prevailing among its members the family improves and hence the society also benefits and improves.

Filial Obligations-Parent Child Relationship: Filial Obligation is a concept where one person in the family feels a moral obligation for the wellness of the other person and takes good care of them.For Example the Grown up adults in some families feel a sense of duty and commitment and are obligated to their ageing parents by taking good care of them as a repayment for their parents taking care of their them when they were young.This kind of family loyalty is,in most cases,installed in the minds of the children when they watch their parents taking good care of their aged grandparents.In countries and Cultures where more Respect is given to senior citizens we can see this kind of moral obligation among the sons and daughters to take care of their ageing Parents. There is also a natural expectation among such adult children that if they take care of their aging parents then their own kids will take care of them later in future.

Filial Obligations-Husband and Wife Relationships:

In most cultures a man and women entering in to a Marriage as husband and wife,ceremonially take a vow that they will stand by each other for the rest of their lives through good and bad times.So religion and religious ceremonies  are also intended to install family loyalty among its members in some levels.

Family Loyalty between Brothers and siblings

In some cultures it is the responsibility of the brother to safe guard the well being of their sisters,sometimes even after they are married.In almost all cultures when one person faces financial crisis the first person they look up to is their brother.

 

 

 

How to Attract women and make them approach and talk to you without you talking

If you are wondering whether it is possible to attract a woman and make her approach and talk to you without you first initiating a conversation with them …then,You have come to the right place and i have a lot to talk about it.Yes,it is not only possible but also beneficial since it saves you a lot of effort in getting them interested in you later on after getting them to initiate a conversation with you and talk to you.Since,they initiated the talk, you can drive the conversation in any direction you want to.Also it means that they already consider you desirable or at least a likable Person and you don’t have to try hard to impress them.But all these only if you succeed in attracting them and make them talk to you…Right?

I know it is much easier to attract girls by initiating the conversation with them and impress them with your words but in that case you have taken the responsibility of leading the conversation and entertaining them.Indirectly you have let them qualify whether you are good enough for them instead of making them wonder whether they are good enough for you.

There can be thousand reasons for why you don’t want to first talk to them .Anything from shyness to not wanting to be seen as a flirt,but whatever it is you will succeed in making him/her approach you and talk to you if you follow the strategies discussed here.

So let’s get down to the basics first without further fluff talk

1.Install the Positive Attitude/Mindset

Say this to yourself until you convince yourself without any self doubts.”I am irresistible and no one but me can make people feel the way i can make them feel.They deserve me if they talk to me and keep me interested”

If you have low self esteem or if you are too shy you may ,at first, find it funny to say these affirmation but trust me this first step cannot be overstepped and you will start to believe the fact that you deserve to be approached by the members of opposite sex or people in general  eventually.If you don’t want to take this first step you have only two other options.

a.Grow some courage and learn to approach and talk to people you are interested in.  (OR)

b.Go and Play video Games.

2.Master the soul grabbing Smile:

If you are still reading i assume you have either agreed with me that the first step of Installing the ‘I am irresistible’ mindset is mandatory for your success in getting people come and talk to you or you are just reading this post for entertainment.Either way ‘Entertain Yourself’.

So how to get that smile that grabs souls?Have you watched anyone smile and suddenly they appeared more beautiful and sexy than ever before? Smile is a universal gesture to make you appear more Friendly and approachable.The Trick is to learn to smile with your eyes.Stand in front of the mirror and practice giving your best attractive smile but just concentrate on your eyes and see it smile too.If it doesn’t smile back at you just imagine that it does .

If you think smiling at others is just a plain idea and not a magical thing that can make others approach you and talk to you then think again.One of my readers commented that that i changed his love life forever by mastering my ‘Soul grabbing Smile’ technique.I was as septic as you and i asked him to tell me more about it.Below is what he told me and it made me realize that i made more sense to someone who is more sensible than me.

“Although i am decent looking and young,I had approach anxiety and never had the guts to go and talk to women whom i found interesting.When i read your Tip about ‘Mastering the soul Grabbing smile’ i did the exercise a few days and the next day i was listening to a song in my iphone with just one earbud in my right ear.I was sitting in a waiting room to catch a Train and a Attractive girl walked towards the seat next to me.I pretended not to notice her coming but when she was very near i looked up and did my ‘Soul Grabbing smile’.I could see that She was confused by the look in her eyes but she eventually recovered and said ‘Do you know me?’.I removed the earbud from my ear and said ‘Oh.Sorry i was listening to a song and the lyrics made me so high that i was smiling like a fool’.The conversation continued since she wanted to know more about the lyrics and i was prepared with what to say next.”

OK.Now i bet that it makes sense to you.With the Right attitude and adding your own twists and you can take a common Tip that you can find anywhere in the internet and Turn it in to such a powerful Technique that is foolproof. Till then i am here to spoon feed you!

3.Learn Instant Rapport Techniques:

The first thirty seconds of the meeting with women is very crucial since it plays a decisive role in how your relationship is going to take shape.It is very essential to gain rapport with women as soon as possible.There are many Instant Rapport gaining Techniques that will make you attractive in the eyes of the women.

Mirroring:Mirroring is the process of subtly imitating the body language,speech pattern and attitude of your target so that the women consider you similar to herself which subconsciously builds a attraction or friendship between you. It will be much more easier to try this with someone and see if it works for you or not instead of trying to understand how it works.

4.Learn to Read People’s Body language and Non Verbal communication

Often times a girl may be interested in you but she will never communicate it verbally.Instead she will telegraph her likeness for you using subtle non verbal cues and gestures.If you are not able to read these subtle messages you are missing out on lot of opportunities that come your way.These missed opportunities maybe the difference between your success and your failure,so,it’s really important to develop your skills to read what goes on inside people’s mind.Once this skill is mastered it will not only help in your love life but will also be a very effective tool to have in your work life and even in home.

5.Communicate your interest to her Non verbally.

Likewise when you learn to use non verbal communication skills to your advantage you can covertly send signals about what your intentions are without having to express it verbally.

6.Eye Contact with women.

If there is one thing you have to learn to attract someone and make them approach you without you uttering a single word then it would be learning the correct way to make eye contact,maintaining it and flirting with eye contact with women.There are some great techniques to get eye contact with women and it would take a book on its own if everything has to be explained but here are some of the handpicked ones that you can put to use right away.

Bull’s Eye technique:

If you are shy,anxious or uncomfortable in holding a eye lock with a women then you are at a disadvantageous position.Women expect men to look them in their eyes and they consider it as a sign of a confident man and they see men who avoid eye contact with them as weak.But Bull’s Eye Technique is available for you just to overcome this problem.If you are uncomfortable to look in to the eyes and gaze her soul then you can just look her in the place between her eyes where the Nose touches the forehead.Imagine you are just looking at her where her third eye would be.When done correctly women would get the impression that you are looking at them in their eyes while you will not be feeling any discomfort.Even though this technique is very effective i would recommend you to just use it in the beginning but start looking in the eyes later once you start to feel comfortable.

Triangular Gaze:Once you start feeling comfortable at locking a eye contact without taking your eyes off then you can proceed to master the Triangular Gaze.After holding eye to eye contact when she is still looking at you make a quick glance to their lips.Let your eyes rest for a couple of seconds on her lips the next time.This Technique will turn on the heat in her and will let her know that you mean business and that she cannot friend zone you.