Very few eye cues are as straight forward to interpret as Rolling eyes.Even the dictionary gives a clear cut meaning for ‘rolling eyes’.
Rolling Eyes-to move your eyes around in a circle because someone has said or done something stupid or strange
Now that we have clearly illustrated how a eye rolling will look like with the help of the beautiful model in the above picture and what ‘Rolling eyes’ mean with the dictionary meaning we can move to the other aspects of what ‘eye rolling’ means to the speaker and what it does to the people in the receiving end of it.
Though Teens are the obvious heavy users of the eye rolling gesture many adults also display this behavior though they subtly hide it or stop it in the middle. Both men and women roll their eyes when they want to belittle the speaker for something they said or did.When someone rolls their eyes at you they are doing it as if they are telling their imaginary audience “look at this guy!He is so annoying and frustrating to talk to.”
Since eye rolling is considered as a direct aggressive gesture and almost all people understand what it really means people generally get mad when they are at the receiving end of this gesture.They may also want to know the ways to respond or comebacks when someone rolls their eyes at them.Let’s analyze the scenario from everyone’s perspective.
Firstly,when someone rolls their eyes at you,you should try to view why they are doing it from their shoes.In defense of the eye roller,they are choosing to say that ‘your are dumb’ non-verbally instead of directly saying it verbally and that itself means that they are showing some consideration to the other person.Sometimes the eye roller may not be in a dominant position to say ‘you are dumb’ and hence expresses it non-verbally.An example may be a store Girl Rolling her eyes at the middle aged man trying to hold on to a personal conversation with her.It will be unfair if we were to tell you should not roll your eyes at your customer.She has to have a way to express herself to let some of her steam and stress out of her,Right?
Now let’s look at the feelings of the person at the receiving end of the Eye roll.Some people go so mad at this gesture that they have openly expressed their urge to punch in the eye of the eye roller.Some people even call out “Did you just roll your eyes at me?” which just induces more eye rolling in return or the answer “What are you talking about” from the eye roller.
Personally i would recommend to ignore the eye rollers and get on with your life.Ask yourself why the eye rolling is making you upset or angry?Try to find the answer and do something to rectify it.However if you insist on a way to respond or to do a comeback i would recommend the following.
Ask them in the most serious way you possibly can “Did something i said bothered or annoyed you because i noticed it in the way you rolled your eyes.Can you help me to correct myself by verbally stating your situation?”. This is the better verbal approach without escalating the situation further.
Another way is to acknowledge their eye roll and let them know you received their gesture well.Let’s say you are talking to a Teenager and you get the ‘Eye Roll’ you stop what you were saying and tell them “Okay…I got it.You are not in a good mood now.