When someone yawns while we are talking with them,the first thing that comes to our mind is that they are feeling bored with the conversation.Having said that it can mean a lot of other things depending on the context and we should not generalize the meaning of yawning to just boredom and disinterest.I have heard people that they get upset when someone with whom they are conversing yawns while they are talking because they consider it disrespectful.It should not be so because one should understand that Yawning is a socially acceptable human behavior.
Let us first understand some discreet facts about yawning before dwelling deep to find its meaning.
Yawning is contagious and there is already enough proof and studies conducted to prove that it is true.It is also true that when you have good vibes with someone you will feel the urge to yawn if you see them yawning.
Yawning occurs naturally when the diaphragm is pushed up and body inhales and exhales in a relaxed manner.But you will be also able to yawn on purpose just by thinking about it or by starting to fake a yawn and you will be surprised to find that you have successfully invoked a natural yawn .(and also by writing about yawning,as i just found out now)
Science says that yawning is a involuntary action of the body to help the brain with more oxygen.Some even suggests that yawning helps cool down the temperature of the brain which in turn helps it to function more efficiently.
Sometimes people fake a yawn to convey something to the people around them.For instance if you ask you kids to study at night or pack their schoolbags they will yawn.As already mentioned above if you start to fake the yawn you may end up yawning for real and this makes it hard to differentiate between a real and fake yawn.Some people,particularly those in a authority position(Eg:A teacher and student) go mad when someone they are in conversation with yawn.If you are one of them you should learn to keep your cool but having said that some people really have the bad habit of yawning loudly and vocally in public. Some Religions like Islam for instance forbid their people from yawning vocally with a ‘Haa…’ sound and they attribute it to the laughing of the devil inside.
Before i lay down my solutions and healing techniques to help overcome abandonment issues in adults that is carried forward from childhood ,I want to reveal that i am not a psychologist or psychiatrist or anything.I talk from the understanding i gained from my own experience and from the experiences of similar people who were struggling with abandonment issues as adults,with whom i had a chance to interact and help with.
The Fear of abandonment is a traumatic feeling experienced not just by children.It is a issue faced by adults across all ages and seniors also. Most of us think that people with the fear of abandonment acquired it because they have lost someone who loved them and are very close to them during their childhood,like a father or mother or both parents.While that is true to some extend many people may exhibit all the symptoms of abandonment issues but they may not have lost their parents.The reason can be a lot of things,Maybe they were Emotionally abandoned by parents who were too busy to physically and emotionally care for their children or they may have just grown up with the wrong Perception that their parents don’t care and love them and they may have based their perception on some specific incidents and memories from childhood.
Abandonment Issues can be categorized in to two Types
Physical abandonment is what a child goes through when he/she loses one or both of their Parents and have to relocate to live with a distant relative.It can also be when the father or mother has left the family to live with some other person. Emotional Abandonment:
Emotional Abandonment is when a Person who is very close to you suddenly stopped loving and caring for you.Or it can be that even though you grow up with both your parents you felt that you didn’t receive the love and care you needed as a Child.Make no mistake,Emotional Abandonment is equally painful like Physical Abandonment.
Signs and Symptoms of Abandonment issues in adults
If you are single….
Do you feel lonely and Bored and you yearn for that special someone you always dream about.Yet, when you come across someone resembling the one in your dream ,you avoid them.You avoid talking to them,avoid even seeing them because deep inside you feel you are not worthy of them.But you daydream that that special person will fall in love with you stalk you and get in to a relationship with you.
Are you Jealous of other people in relationship? Are you jealous and cry in your heart when someone you are attracted to talks and mingles socially with other people?
Are you over emotional ?You have grown up still you react like a child in specific situations and people.
Do you suppress your emotions and try hard not showing any emotions to other people?
Do you second-guess and rewind and playback every single thing you said in a conversation because it will be misinterpreted by others and start worrying?
If you are in a relationship…
1.Do you try hard and go out of your ways to impress your partner because you want to keep them and you don’t want to get abandoned.
2.Do you suspect that your partner will leave you for someone else and keep a watchful eye on them?Are you clingy and needy and make your partner suffocated?
3.Do you fall for unavailable partners who don’t care about you and for people who are way below your league?
If you are a Parent…
Do you feel uncontrollable anger and get upset at your child when they cry loudly or Talk loudly or when they put you in specific situations outside your comfort zone?
Do you blame your children for everything and expect them to behave like adults.Do you expect them to take responsibility for their feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, but you yourself are not good at it?
You want your kids to be more emotionally intelligent and have the social skill that you lacked.But,when they learn and mirror your behavior you get nervous and you shout and get mad at them.