First things first. Let’s first clear out how a pouting lower lip will look like before we learn what all the things this particular body language gesture may mean.The following is a exaggerated version of a child pouting lower lip which i have intentionally selected over other pictures of women with pouting lower lip.The main reason is that women pout their lower lip but they do it very subtly and covertly but small kids make it very obvious when they pout their lower lip to let us know what they are feeling inside.
So what is that which a child wants to show us with a obvious pouting lip and a women wants to subtly display to another person with a slight pouting lower lip? The answer is quite obvious if you look at the above picture and answer me what you think is the emotional state of the child is.Take a guess and if you can’t come up with anything,Try again.
Displeasure: A Pouting lower lip may be a gesture to display the displeasure at someone or something.Change the cartoon channel to News channel and you kid may show this gesture or stare at a women who is in no mood to socialize and you may get to see this same gesture,though subtly -so subtly that it may be confused with a perked up lip.
The Irony is,since a woman’s covert Pouting lip resembles a Perked up lip for the untrained eyes most people think that the women is attracted to them and showing flirtatious signals while it actually means the extreme opposite.
Feeling Insulted:When you scold a child for something she did you may seen this gesture.It is a child’s way of saying ‘I am feeling insulted’.
A pouting lip may also mean disappointment, annoyance, sadness, disagreement or uncertainty.
Most people assume that when a person is biting their own lips they are just giving a seductive signal to the opposite sex near them or talking to them.It may be particularly true when there are other clusters of accompanying flirt signals or if they are checking them out while or before biting their lips but it is unsafe to assume that a lower or upper lip biting indicates interest in the opposite sex ,just as a standalone gesture.Although we would picture a woman when we talk about ‘biting lips’ most men also display this body language to express their romantic interest or to show that they are interested and aroused.
Having said that biting lips can mean a lot of other things like fear,anxiety or a suppressing action when it is done outside a seduction setting.Bottom lip bite signifies anticipation as opposed to upper lip bite which indicates apprehension or fear that something bad is about to happen.This makes lip biting hard to read.For example you are checking out a women standing close to you and she kind of bites her lower lip.It may be because she is attracted to you and she is giving flirty signals out.It may also mean that she is feeling uncomfortable in the situation she has found herself in and is anxiously biting her lips.When a person feels anxious biting their lips helps them pacify themselves from the stress. Some men and women may have developed lip biting as a habit and they may repeat it again and again when they enter in to some kind of situation or a mental state of mind.Once you figure out what kind of state they are in then you can always guess the time they enter that emotional state just by tracking their lip biting pattern.
Biting the Upper lip Vs Biting the lower lip
Most people bite their lower lip or the below lip but there are some who bite the upper lip also.Biting the upper lip is not generally considered as sexy as biting the lower lip.apprehension.
So analyze the content and context of the situation you are in before analyzing the meaning when someone in your vicinity bites their own lips . With enough practice you can separate out a seductive lip biting from a anxiety based one.
Do you find that generally people are looking away and seem to avoid holding direct eye contact with you either while talking to you or when you are meeting them for the day and just trying to say hello to them?And you are here to find the reason?Honestly,If you want to find the answer to why someone in particular is avoiding eye contact with you the possibilities are almost endless!The good news is that i will be trying to cover almost all possibilities and if you relate it to your particular context you will most likely find the correct reason why they act like that and you can also do something about it.
Firstly,if you have already established a good rapport,trust and relationship with someone who is avoiding looking you in your eye the best option available to you is asking them smoothly why they are not looking at you and try to get a direct answer from them.This approach is very direct and straight forward in theory but watch out for some pitfalls when you practically implement it.For Starters people don’t give a direct answer or they lie and way led you and thus will make you spend your time and effort in waste.Then,some people get offended when someone directly ask them why they are not looking eye to eye.Recently i happened to introduce my niece to my neighbor John,who is a Jerk by anybody’s standards.He was much older than her and he was saying stuff like why blondes are dumb and talked in a condescending manner.While we were about to part our ways he remarked ‘You were even not able to look me in my eyes’ and my niece shot back with ‘I can look at someone when there is something nice to look at!’. My neighbor was clearly embarrassed and i was having a hard time controlling my smile.By the way,when i asked my niece why she acted that way she said that though she didn’t find him physically repulsive she didn’t like his condescending conversation and wanted to get away as soon as possible.The takeaway from this incident is that i have the following Point to share with everyone.
The following are the list of reasons for someone to look away or to avoid eye contact with you.
1.If someone is looking away and not locking eye contact with you during a Conversation that may be because they are not feeling comfortable with the Topic of the conversation.
So the next time you want to make someone who is looking away to look at your face while you are talking, just change the topic of your conversation and see if you are getting any positive feedback.It is highly likely that the target will look in to your eyes when your topic is interesting to them.There is also another technique to test if they are avoiding eye contact really because they are not comfortable with what you are saying.When they are looking away just say something with their name in it and check if they start looking at you and hold the eye contact for several more moments or not.If someone looks at you when you call their name and immediately away then it is a sure sign that they are feeling uncomfortable with something.For example if you are talking about your supporting views on the recent immigration laws to Billy and you notice Billy is looking away you can test if he is uncomfortable with the topic by saying ‘Do you agree?Billy’ and still you don’t get much eye contact from Billy then that may probably mean that billy holds opposite views and it is much better to change the topic if you want to get further rapport with Billy.
2.If someone is looking away and not locking eye contact with you that may be because they don’t like you.
3.If someone is looking away and not locking eye contact with you that may be because they are shy or feeling anxious or having low self esteem.
4.If someone is not looking at you while talking to you they may be feeling guilty for something that they did or going to do to you or they are hiding something from you.
You can’t say that someone is lying or hiding something from you with 100% certainty just because they are not looking you straight in the eye but watch out for some of the below body language that may accompany avoiding eye contact to confirm for sure.
Hands touching the neck or the mouth regions.Some People even cover their mouth with fingers.
Touching their own nose.The hands involuntarily tries to cover the mouth but people become conscious and will try to avert it thus landing the hands on the nose area.
Scratching the back of the neck and rubbing of the eyes.
5.People Generally avoid eye contact when they are bored or disinterested or they are distracted with something else.
Okay!So,you do shout and yell at your kids but you want to stop snapping at your child after seeing their hurtful face and that makes you feel Guilty.You make a resolution that you are going to STOP your yelling and shouting but that doesn’t lost long because you snap again and shout at your kids and your neighbors say you are a bad dad.You analyze what went wrong and you point at your kid and say ‘I wanted to be a good dad but ….you made me do it’
What you read above may not apply 100% to you but it did for me until i learned to reduce all the Yelling and shouting to a point that kids think i am a better dad,now.So you can start researching for techniques to stop snapping at your kids or you can learn some of the things i learned as i share my own research and experimentation with my kids.
If you really want to stop all the yelling you have to stop snapping and for that you have to take responsibility for your temper and your state of mind.By pointing your finger at your Kids and saying ‘You made me shout at you’ you are giving the power to control you to your kids.
1.Ask yourself if your Shouting and yelling has made your kids to change their negative attitude.
2.Your Kids will Model you and will start to Yell and shout at others.And you will get more Mad and start to shout at them more.Stop this vicious cycle.
3.Next time when your child does something and you are about to exhaust your last drop of patience…Calmly say “Will you listen to me and do something for me if i say it affectionately instead of shouting and yelling at you?” .There is no 100% guarantee that your kid will suddenly become a angel and start listening to you but there is a very good change.If your child is too tough for this,well,there are more than one way to calm your children.
You are traveling on a long distance Train and you are feeling bored and look at the person sitting opposite to you with the intention of starting a conversation with them.You realize that your co traveler is not noticing that you are looking at them but she is looking down with her eyes to her left.You are wondering what is going on inside her head because you know that only when she is in the right state of mind she will be open to respond to you and will hold a conversation with you.Now,we cannot exactly predict what she is thinking inside her head but what if we can deduce what is going on inside her head? Trust me,when you can read a person’s body language and understand what emotional state they are feeling inside, you have a great edge when it comes to persuading them to take a action you want them to take.The ability to predict a person’s state of mind will help you not just in your relationship but also in your business and work life by getting you instant rapport with clients.
Back in the days when i started to learn the meaning of the eye cues,one of the problems i faced is,the confusion between Right and Left.When i searched for ‘Body Language Meaning of Girl looking down to the left’ in half of the websites there were images with eyes looking in one direction while in the others the eyes were looking in the other direction.The more i tried to understand which is ‘right’ and which is ‘left’ the more confusing it became.I was feeling frustrated till one day i understood everything clearly.If you don’t have any confusion between the person’s left and right i would suggest you to skip the next paragraph and learn what you came here for originally, to understand the meaning of eyes looking down to the left.However if you are confused like i was then the next Paragraph is very important and i want you to read it Carefully.
The secret is in the word ‘Their‘. Look at the image of the girl in the picture above.The Girl is almost looking at the floor and her eyes are to ‘HER’ left.Look at the text below the image ‘Eyes looking down to Their left’.Here we should be looking from her point of view.In some websites they translate this to your point of view and they talk about ‘Eyes looking down to your left’ or simply ‘Eyes looking down to the Left’.Here they are talking from your Perspective.I wish i could explain this more clearly but i think this would do to clear some doubts in your mind.
When a right handed Person is looking down with their eyes to their left it means that at that moment they are having a serious self Talk.If i were to explain the position of their eyes without showing any pictures i would say that It is almost as if they are looking at their own left knee or Toes.
What else we can deduce apart from the fact that they are in Self Talk?
We all have a voice inside our head that speaks to us in our Primary language.When we are having such a talk with ourselves our eyes would be unconsciously positioned down looking to our left handed side.If you are a right handed person you can double check what i said by catching yourself during a self talk.If you are a left handed person your eyes would be looking to the Right handed side during a self talk.Of course there are exceptions but as a thumb rule what i said above holds water and will be accurate in 80% of cases.