Last time when i was struggling with writer’s block i searched internet for some techniques to overcome it and many of results were like…’101 ways to overcome your writers block’. After reading through thousands of those tips that was useless i almost developed ‘Reader’s block’ and stopped looking for effective ways to start writing again.
One day while aimlessly watching youtube videos i came across this uncut Gem of a Technique that worked like a magic to crush my writing blocks and helped me to write again like before.Actually the Techniques was titled as ‘Japanese technique to get rid of your laziness’. Even before reading the technique my first thoughts were that i could use it to overcome my writers block problem since it is also a type of procrastination. And when i read the full technique it made full sense to me and it just reinforced my belief.
Let me first explain you about the Japanese Technique or the ‘Keizen’ technique as they call it and then will tell you how to apply it for crushing your writers block.
Kaizen, also known as continuous improvement, is a long-term approach to work that systematically seeks to achieve small, incremental changes in processes in order to improve efficiency and quality.Sounds complicated Right? Okay check out the simplified version of this Technique.When you are making a new change in you life we tend to procrastinate doing the needed work to the next day and finally it will get accumulated and most people will quit eventually.The change you set out to achieve can be any thing like working out to get fitter and in shape or Improving your life style but the basic technique is the same.Everyday just do the work needed to achieve your goal for just one minute a day.You can work as many hours you may want to but don’t let a day go without doing the task for at least one minute a day.That’s all to it to the simplified version of the Kaizen Technique.
Seems very simple right? But there are a lot of complicated psychological reasons for it’s effectiveness in helping someone achieving their Goal.
So how do i translate this technique to cure Writers block?
You take it in silently when your nosy Coworker tries to dominate you and acts as if he is your Boss. You convince yourself that staying silent is the wise thing to do in that situation.
You wonder why random Strangers you meet outdoors in Streets,supermarkets and malls etc.. Stare at you ,intrude in to your personal space,cut before you in queues ,or just act rude around you …
You feel you are invisible to others in social situations and during conversations people focus on talking with those accompanying you but they completely ignore you and you end up feeling self conscious about what you are doing there and you start to plan how to get out of there.
You are anxious about meeting new People or having conversations with People.You think people will judge you.You run out of things to say and end up in awkward silences.You think your communication skill sucks.
Yet..you have always wanted to…
Have the subtle language skills to make that Coworker leave you alone and make him run with his tail between his legs.
Get Respect and friendly vibes from People that you meet in public places.Make Bartenders, receptionists,waiters and other Clerical people treat you like a VIP while leaving others to wait till they finish giving you their undivided attention.
Make the opposite sex want to approach you and start conversations with you.
And when you finally talk back to them, you can make them laugh and let them feel what you want them to feel, and lead them in to a deep trance by giving them the experience of their lifetime… all in the course of a normal conversation.
And many more…
You may have personally known or seen someone who can instantly befriend anyone and talk their way in to and out of any situation you can imagine.They are the naturals and they have developed their people skills over a period of their lifetime watching and learning from successful and influential people they are growing around with.And then there are People like me,The Testers,who are not genetically blessed with influential parents and had to learn everything from scratch from self Help stuff. It requires a lot of time and money to test and find out which techniques work in the real world and which ones don’t.
Problem is most Self Help methods that actually work in real life come with a very high price tag in the form of boot-camps and Private seminars organized for rich clients like Businessmen and corporate executives .And even in these courses they add a lot of useless advice and techniques that will distract you.
Technically what separates ‘What you are now’ from ‘The Person you want to become’ is just the knowledge of a handful of skills and techniques and a series of steps you need to take.And some Time.
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What if you get to access to the techniques and experiences of People who are trying to attain similar goals like yours? How fun it would be to Interact and learn from them and put those techniques in your real life and make it work for you?
What if you have a Personal coach who would initiate you in just the needed People skills that you need to know to achieve your Goal?
The Good news is you can acquire the knowledge you need to develop the People skills you want from the courses and guides in the internet.Some are Free and some are paid Products.But the issue is there are a lot of useless advice and techniques floating around that will distract you and waste years of your time and money before you finally find your way to your Goal.
It took us seven years.We were a group of people each with a different goal towards self Development.Some had the money to spend to Attend Underground Seminars on Dating ,Psychology,NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Conversational Hypnosis that are meant for the elite few and they shared their knowledge with us.Some contributed by putting the knowledge in to practice in the real world and sharing field reports with us.We functioned like a well oiled machinery but still it took seven years because there is so much myths and useless junk floating around before you can lay your hands on that ‘Golden nugget’ of information that really works in the Real world out there.
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This is my Personal method or Trick or Technique to to Build Instant Rapport with Anyone
I presume that… like me you would also want to cut the fluff talk and dive in straight to the meat of the Techniques while you are learning this new skill. I was not that lucky because I had to wade through a lot of junk methods that wasted my time and energy before finding a few Gems that I could practically use in my Real life effectively and benefit from it. Good News is you will have the Knowledge delivered in a silver plate. My only concern is People sometimes tend to take the worth of things lightly if they get access to stuff easily but my only option is to believe that you are wiser to know that.
Firstly I want to tell you how I accidentally discovered this working technique about how to Build Instant Rapport with Anyone from a old Persuasion and Influence course. During my teen years I had speech related problems and by the time I crossed my teenage I became a extremely introverted shy young man. I overcame my speech impediment in my early Twenties and I was able to talk normally to people. Yet I could not come out of my shyness. When I go out I felt that I was socially invisible(Many times I would ask somebody something and they would completely ignore me ) and that is when I started to learn a lot of Self Help stuff, mostly Persuasion and Influence related stuff. I came across this old Recording of a Seminar where they claimed that they have a covert Technique that can help anyone develop a instant Rapport. I knew that I have to take this Method seriously and put it to test in my Real life and make it work simply because they talked about this one technique in the whole video.
Before we dig in deeper I want you to touch base on the basic Principles of this technique. It would be good if you agree with the following fundamental statements.
People like people who are like them.
Sounds so plain and True Right? Ok. If you agree with that statement the next step is to make anyone think that you are very much like them. That too we have to insert that idea in to their head in a couple of seconds we have while meeting them in a real life scenario. But HOW TO DO THAT?
I have took that idea from that seminar and add a few more working gems I already know and then Tested it and Tuned it and Optimized it and used and abused it …So much that I unconsciously use it every time I meet someone to make them unconsciously like me. Remember-I am not doing anything unethical or fancy…I just let them know that I am so much human like them.
Listen to everything I say from here on as they are the actual method. Take your Time to understand and digest it.If you don’t understand anything just ask me and I will do whatever I can do to drill the method in to your mind.
The following is a Real life scenario where we are going to Apply this Technique to make anyone Like us Instantly
1. When you meet some one… what is the first Thing we do?
When meeting someone…At what exact moment do we actually meet?
Answer: You look at the Person and the Person looks at you. That is when we humanly make our First step in meeting someone. You lock Eye contact. This stage may last only 1-4 seconds.
2. So we make a Eye contact with a Person (There are a dozen Eye contact Techniques to achieve different outcomes but we are not going to look in to any of them now except the one below.)
Eye contact is the first step or the first leap you take in to the Elevator for communicating with Someone.
So, What is the next step that happens when Two People lock a eye to eye contact?
Answer: Two things can happen from here.
a. Either one of them may break the eye contact by looking away.
b. Both of them Move to the Next Step. No! They do not have Verbal Communication Yet.
3. There is a Nonverbal Communication stage we go through after we actually make eye contact and before we Verbally communicate with someone.
This is the stage where we are going to apply our Practical Psychological Trick
So when two people Lock eye contact and before they say hi…. Or hello…Or Blah blah….They do a non verbal communication Ritual.
Everyone has a Non verbal way to say their hello before they Actually say their hello.
Some lift one or both their eyebrow.
Some wave their hands slightly.
Some smile in a peculiar way.
Some tilt their head slightly.
Now…can you empathize with what I am saying? If you don’t understand what I am talking about in this Step 3 then when you go out just concentrate and notice and look for this phase when you meet your neighbor…your colleague…your waiter…your billing clerk at the stores.
4. Most of us don’t even recognize this phase of Nonverbal communication signals. When a Person sends their Non verbal signal (a slight tilt of their head or a Grin or a eyebrow raise) we normally either say our verbal Hello or sometimes send our own Non verbal signal.
For example you are in your favorite restaurant and the waiter approaches you…Both of you lock eye contact….he lifts his eyebrows slightly…And you put a grin on your face…and you ask him the Menu.
The waiter is not going to like you instantly. He is not going to give his best service for you.
In your next table I am sitting comfortably. The waiter Approaches me…we lock eye contact… he does his standard lift of his eyebrows …I just copy him and lift my eyebrows the same way he did…then smile….and ask him the Menu…
I have already done my Trick. On a deeper level the waiter would be thinking that I am like him in some ways….he would like me…He would give his undivided attention and service to me, listen every word I say.
From the next table you yell ‘Waiter! just a minute’. The waiter won’t turn until I finish my conversation with him. You will be left to wonder why he is treating the Guy in the next table like a VIP and why you are invisible to him.
5. Because subconsciously at a deeper lever he perceives me as his friend(Since I matched his Non verbal Hello gesture) and you as different(since you have a different Non verbal Hello gesture).
When meeting someone immediately after the initial eye contact everyone will do their non verbal gesture. It can be a slight tilt of the head, a nod, or Grin or a thousand other things. In reply our natural tendency is to do our own Non verbal gesture, which will make the other person see us different. Instead if we copy the Other Person’s non verbal gesture he will perceive us as his friend and will develop a likeness for you instantly.
Just Test this technique on random persons you meet in your real life and feel the sense of influence you exert on people. You are now empowered with the hidden knowledge of the elite few powerful people.
It is up to you to use it to the best of everybody involved.