How to break a bad habit

Habit is the thing which gets inculcated in you and sometimes you didn’t know that you are accustomed to it often. Habit exposes the world who you are? Some habits will bring you good reputation and some will give negative impact over you. So you must be very careful on choosing a habit whether it is a minor one like biting your nail or serious one like smoking or drinking. You may come across many people around you who are addicted to some bad habits and don’t even know how to get back from that. If you are a person among them and you are looking for a remedy at the moment, I can tell for sure that you have reached the correct place for rejuvenating your life after reading this article

Preparing the Mind Set

The first and the basic step to change a bad habit is to prepare yourself mentally to come back from that. This is the main thing since you should desire internally in your subconscious level. A true desire will only pave the way for complete change and nothing needed extra for your rehabilitation. You may see many people try to overcome from the habit but not succeeding. Do you know the reason for that? It’s simply due to this reason. Yes ..They are not certain. You should prepare your mind to commit fully on breaking the habit. Then only you will be succeeded.  So prepare mentally for a good change

Identifying the undesirable cause

Do you sit and think for a while anytime what is the basic reason behind the undesirable condition you are facing right now. Whatever the problem it may be, it will fall under 2 categories only.

  1. Health issues
  2. Money issues

First one is the Health or medical issues like Cancer or Liver problem and the second one is money problem. If you analyse it further deeply you will definitely come to know that these 2 issues persist in your life due to any of the bad habit like smoking/ drinking for Cancer/ Liver problem and the second one Economy problem due to the bad habit of frequent shopping, spending lavishly. Yes, spending excess beyond income is also a bad habit not thinking about the future. Am I right?

Apart from these 2 , another category is there namely behavior issue like nail biting, sucking the thumb etc..  which will not create a major issues but this also has to be controlled before it reaps into a big one. Because it will certainly damage your social image. You are admitting that Social image is very important..Right?

Ignoring the inducers/ temptation

Try to know what makes or tempts to do the habit. Remove the thing so far away from you.  If you are continuous junk food eater, take away all the items from your kitchen and put in a room where you are not visiting often like store room or an ideal room in upstairs something like that. This will reduce your number of times you indulge in the activity.

While shopping, don’t go through Junk food section side. Instead pick cereals, pulses and grains and try to cook in your own kitchen in a healthy way. It will be helpful in 2 ways. First of all, your health will not be spoiled and then you don’t have a chance to spend money lot for the health ailments causing by eating that unhealthy junk food. Do you agree?

Let you be a person who spends most of your valuable time on chatting or face book, avoid this by keeping mobile away in some other room. Or put it in Airplane mode

Avoiding the unhealthy situation

Here situation refers to various phenomena like person, place and time. Imagine your habit of drinking is induced by some particular friends or colleague. Try to keep away from them. Tell them openly that you are in the process of breaking that bad habit i.e drinking alcohol. Definitely they will make fun with you. Be strong in your decision. They will compel you but never give up your idea. Strong minds do wonders. They will force you for 3 or 4 times, after that seeing your confidence they themselves will not call you for the habit. Sometimes they don’t even call you for the party henceforth.

Like that, if you are very much tensed to indulge in the bad habits if you cross a particular place say something like a street where Wine shop is located. Don’t go that side. Instead take other direction and reach the destination. Hope there are several ways in your city to reach one particular place.

Similarly, you may feel nervous if particular time has come you accustomed for doing that habit. Say, you are a regular drinker by 8‘o clock night. Don’t panic. Calm down your frustration. You have decided you are going to change the habit and you are not going to indulge in that activity anymore. Don’t going on think the same. Instead divert your aim in some other useful ways for utilizing that time. Call your kids and play with them. Do small helps in finishing their homework. Take outing and give them a simple treat at a restaurant with your spouse also. See the happiness on the family members face. It will be a different feel what you would not have enjoyed earlier. Feel this true happiness.

Why unwantedly spending the money and spoiling your health. Think for a while if money is wasted it can be earned somehow or other but if health is spoiled? Is there anybody alternative available to fulfill your place if something has happened to you? Keep this in mind and act smartly

Make the habit unlike

Normally, you will not take a food item if u don’t like. Correct? Habits also like this only. If you make the habit unpleasant, certainly you will not do that. It’s a simple logic. At the beginning of this article, you come cross the habit of nail biting or thumb sucking. But you have not seen the remedy on that time. Many of you may wonder why I didn’t tell any solution. The reason behind is nothing but to clearly give inputs to the reader the apt technique at the right place. Nothing else other than this.

Ok. Coming to the point. Add something ugly to the habit. For nail bitter, coat the nail with any unpleasant thing which you don’t like. For practice purpose, you can coat with mud. Each time you bring your hand towards your mouth to bite the nail, you will feel uncomfortable both by that odour and the taste. Gradually you will reduce the number of times bringing hand towards the mouths and at certain stage it will be stopped by this practice at last. You can try some special products available at pharmacy also particularly to avoid this habit.

Same technique will work out for Thumb suckers too.

Be cautious always

Keep in mind that you are in the process of quitting smoking. You and your coworker are moving to coffee shop from the workplace for a break. As usual, your smoking coworker surely lights a cigar in his mouth and take other one from his pocket to you. For this instance, repeat in your mind “Quit smoking, Quit smoking”. You should be very cautious and strong in your decision. Never give up for anybody.

You better don’t go with him or else take any chewable like bubble gum or something like that instead of cigarette. Have a cup of coffee only and do some breathing exercise for refreshment. Or else, after having coffee simply move out from the smoking area by allowing your friend only to have a smoke and just take a walk around the corridor. Atleast it will be like a walking exercise.

Here, you can even ask your friend also to quit the habit and thereby both of you together will come out from the habit.

As per a recent scientific research, it is better and easy to break a habit with supporting people. Because if anybody slips, remaining person with same ideology will be there to rescue him with gratitude.

Take substitute action

Mental stress and having plenty of time not knowing what to do is the main reason for practicing bad habit. Most of the people start a habit just for time pass to get rid of their time. Eventually by continuing that it becomes so hard to them to leave the same. Choose any activity which will be benefittable for your mind and body. You can get rid of stress by hearing good music and reading good books. Why unnecessary have a bad habit and spoil the health and thereby having more stress again due to health complications. Stress cannot be taken out if you practice bad habit. It is just a temporary solution. The same problem will remain after you come out from the drug stage. Alternatively, join a gym and improve the physic. Exercise improves your stamina and give power to the body. A healthy body is essential for healthy life.

Go to a swimming class or join painting class. Learn something new in your life. It will be useful in any phase on the life.

Encourage yourself

Praise every time on overcoming the habit. Suppose you taste success in quitting smoking for the first time, show thumbs up symbol to yourself and send success signal to the brain. Your brain will expect the same the next time also and thereby you are preparing yourself for the next victory. Once your brain accustomed to this it will be easier for the next time to follow.

Only a kick start is required, remaining things will happen automatically

Set Simple goals and reward yourself

Procrastination is also a bad habit to avoid and it is not as like the above discussed matter. It is somewhat different and you have to deal with different technique by splitting the whole thing into a simpler job and concentrate on individual one. This should not be made happen immediately and so practice small small things to happen and the combined effect will give a total result.

Adjust your watch 30 minutes before and do all the activity according the adjusted time, Forget about the original time. Concentrate on your adjusted watch time only.

You joined the work out class, but not going regularly wasting the fees. Try to visit the place atleast week end on Saturdays and  Sundays. Once it is accomplished, try to visit on alternate days like Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Earlier, you were not at all going now at least five days a week. Excellent improvement.. you admit? Like this you can make the habit regular and after that you can take one day rest in a week most probably on Sundays if you want

Same is the case for Office also.

Give simple treat to yourself for each success. Definitely within a particular period of time you will become a regular attendee and may be who knows you will become the “Employee of the year”

Take a vacation

Changing a place certainly change the habit since the brain will not expect the routine activity in totally a new place. New circumstance induce the mood for a change and you will feel a fresh experience

Meditate

Meditation will bring peace and freshness to your soul. Improves your ability to overcome the bad habit. Close your eyes and breathe deeply.  Think over positively that you are getting out from the habit slowly. Imagine the fruitful results. Your imagination and continuous thinking about relieving from the habit will become true since only your imagination and thinking decides who you are.

 

How to avoid Procrastination

HOW TO AVOID PROCRASTINATION

Procrastination is the attitude of postponing or delaying of doing a thing or job.  The very behavior is a stigma for the development of the personality of a person. The basic thing necessary to change this type of behavior is changing one’s outlook itself first.

how to avoid procrastination
how to avoid procrastination

Emotional Preparedness

To start or to do a job all the mere more important is emotion. This factor makes you to start in the right direction and end in perfect finish. So be prepared emotionally to do the job. A right start will bring you fruitful results. A small key only opens a big bungalow. So prepare yourself in the emotional way

Priorities

The enlisting preferential work is priorities. Enlist the work in such a way i.e first, second etc but it is important to give the start at once and in no delay. Delaying a job makes you to frustrate at the last minute and so the whole thing will be spoiled at the end of the day due to hurry. If you are going to attend an interview tomorrow, keep ready the things essential today itself. Take the call letter and put it in the file which you are going to take with you for interview. Keep ready the clothes in a neat manner you are going to wear. Don’t find out for the shirts and pants on the morning of the interview day. Polish your shoes the previous day night itself. Like this you have to give priority to the most important thing first to finish and then select the next important and then the next. You have to identify and assign work on priority basis. Keep in mind that a missed opportunity is a missed life. No use in worrying after missing a chance

Division of work

There is a saying in politics i.e divide and rule. It applies aptly to this also because you can divide the whole job or work in small pieces and finish it easily

While doing so also you should start the hardest you thing first. Once it is done you feel easily in doing rest of the job

Let us imagine that you are preparing for competitive exam. Generally you have to get vast knowledge on various subjects like Science, History, Geography and Mathematics, current affairs and politics etc… and  for that, you are supposed to refer different books regarding this to prepare for the exam. Right? Don’t read all the subjects on a single stretch. If you feel that Geography is somewhat hard to you try to finish it off first. Go through the topics in it. Select anyone among them. Read it from top to bottom. Try to read it deeply. Get well versed on that and choose the next one. If you do like this, it will be easier for you and after that you should not feel Geography as a tough one anymore. Naturally, if you finish the hard one first, you will surely get a confidence within you and so the remaining will be easier for you

Self-motivation

Motivation is important. In these also the self-motivation is all the more important as it makes easy for you to finish a job or work. The self-motivation must be louder as say “you have that and you can do this at ease and you will”.

Often read the positive thoughts of great philosophers. It will boost you

Stick the wordings on places where you see often like door, mirror etc

You must think about the reward or praise you will get at the end and this will push yourself through to success.

Pre Planning

Always have a pre plan. This is the best practice which should be followed throughout your life to overcome procrastination. Preplanning will prevent you from failures in all aspect. A Good preplanner achieves everything in his life

Consider you are planning for outing with family and for that you have to be at Airport at 8’o clock in the morning to catch a flight. Remember your place is 20 kms away from the local port. Normally by car it will take half an hour for travel to cover the said distance. But don’t start exactly at 7:30 from home. No doubt you may see or come cross many person in Airport who missed the flight and feeling bad for the delay.

Think for the situation that your car may get breakdown or you may caught in traffic jam since the Scheduled time is office goer’s time and the road will be busy as it is a peak time. Also keep in my mind it will consume time for check-in process also. Further, think the situation of your family members who are very eager for the trip but very much disappointed for missing the flight. Kindly consider the money loss incurred for all the tickets. So, by keeping all these aspects in mind, plan to start one hour before the usual time. Inform all your family members to be ready at 6:30 itself as per your preplan.

No matter if car gets breakdown. You are having plenty of time and so you can leave the car at garage also and take a taxi as per preplan. Traffic jam? No problem. You can even wait for extra few minutes also. Finally, think for the while the happiness in the face of your family which is more important than anything.

Being on time helps to avoid delay things and thereby no need to postpone the duty.

Keeping on postponing things will increase the pressure level in your body.

You may procrastinate the family trip and can arrange for the coming week also. Feel the feeling of your family members until then and definitely there will not be a normal situation till the next trip is succedded.

So pre plan every action, avoid procrastination and achieve the goal

Time Management

Each and every action has to be done on a particular time. Time factor is the most important thing in the life and so you should maintain punctuality at any cost. Don’t be a late goer. If you see the history you come to know that all successful person were really time conscious.  World will appreciate and accept the person who are punctual. Adjust your watch or cloak 15 minutes before the right time. Try to finish the job according to the adjusted time and forget about the original time. This will help you to accomplish the task somewhat earlier. Here it is also possible for you to finish the job in calm way without any hurry.

Environment

To get good environment makes the work or job partly done. The environment gives Philip to do better work. Environment will be in such a way that it should have less distraction. Select a place which will be calm and comfortable for you to accomplish the task without any interruption. This may be anything, say garden, library or even home alone. Choose anyone that gives you relaxation to work.

Listening to music

Doing a job continuously is sometimes boring..Right? The best way to avoid this is to listen a good music.  Hearing music with lyrics may distract you from work. So it is advisable to hear music without lyrics. It may be anything like Carnatic, jazz or western with melody rhythm will enhance your mood of doing a job.

Making a goal set

To achieve a thing you must set a goal first. To aim a goal is must. Aimlessness will not help at all. Make a goal also in black and white. Put it in writing to recall again and again to achieve the goal.All the best

What does being a outgoing person mean?

Being outgoing is nothing but the ability to socialize with the society at large or to put it in a rather easy way behavior with other people in and around you. It means your behavior style with someone you know or not. We can say ‘easy go type’ or ‘good to know’ person. Being outgoing is probably socialization in action and behavior in the modern society.

Being Outgoing meaning
Being Outgoing meaning

There are many number of criteria needed for being an outgoing or socialization person.  The life as we all know itself is a process of learning. From the inception to the end of the life we are all in this process. First of all knowledge is all the more important in life. We keep on getting acknowledged or acquiring knowledge.

There are various things you ought to have in life [e.g.] passion patience, gratitude, respect to all beings especially fellow human beings. To be human is the more important.

To be outgoing try to approach the situation in the society. Don’t fly away   from occasions and happiness .Try to know about what is happening around  in your life.

Try to have inquest knowledge of all happenings. Don’t wait for others to invite. Try to approach yourself.

Try to talk to people with a open mind. Converse and communicate in proper and easy way. Ensure that your opinion reaches persons listening in the same and full meaning of yours. The skill of communication is important in all walks of life.

Be passionate in knowing things. Continuous and undeterred passion is must. While thinking, you should be positive. The positive vibe will boost your inner self.  In several arguments you must be prepared to accept the other person’s opinion if it is right and correct.  Try to inculcate the habit of thanks to even small things .That will increase your image.

While speaking with others you should look at the eyes of others and don’t stare somewhere else at that time. Then only others will have the satisfaction that you are listening. At new places try to introduce yourself. Don’t wait for others to do it.  While meeting new people don’t indulge in serious matters at first. Try to have open minded and simple queries and questions.

You should not hesitate to compliment others for good things. Try to know the subjects of common interest and talk about that.

You should be kind to weaker and needy people .Help them in all possible ways or what best you can. Help must be voluntary and not compulsion.

In work place, you should not be introvert and be alone at all time .Talk to all co-workers whether they are higher or lower in position. Politeness in speech is all the most important thing you should follow than anything.  You should not be arrogant at any place or at any time. In simple, you should always be soft and sweet. Be patient and non violent.

In modern days, your look and appearance plays an important role to judge about you .To look neat and reasonably dressed at all times is necessary. Always wear washed and bright clothes. Don’t wear dirty dresses. It will decrease your value. Be clean and neat.

Life without any goal is waste. You should have a good goal in your life and walk towards to achieve the same.

While speaking about socializing or outgoing in modern days is meeting different people and clubbing with them is necessary to know about different walks of life .You can get different ideas from various types of people you meet.

While looking good is important you must have some good hobbies also.

The hobbies will enhance the contacts you have which is useful in life.

So let you posses the aforesaid qualities and be a good outgoing or socializing person. Good luck.