How to not get upset or angry over small things

Getting upset or angry is human nature. Misunderstanding, work stress and conflict are some of the reason to get upset. Everybody gets tensed and upset if a situation arises that does not favor them. Does every situation  that we are put in to our daily lives always favors us? No, certainly not. It is impossible too. So it is better to know how to not get upset over these small things by making little changes to your thought process when you cannot change the environment. With a little knowledge and continuous practice, you can overcome your habit of getting upset over little things and you will be able to be happy in your life.

How to not get upset over small things
How to not get upset over small things

These techniques on how to not get upset or angry over small things will help you save you from frustration and trouble that you may be currently facing in your real life.

One Second Technique:

The moment you have decided to read this article you have taken the first step towards getting rid of your old habit of getting upset over trivial   things. It’s good to see you here. Kindly note that in the topic itself it is mentioned as ”small things”. Hence the first and basic step you should understand before getting pressure is to identify yourself the reason whether it is really worth to get tensed in this place, time and particularly for that small thing. If you think about that for a while, really you will feel that you don’t need to get tensed. A one second thinking will definitely bring miracle in that situation and it will totally change the conflict situation to a pleasant one.You will not understand the power of this technique unless and until you practice it in real life situations.

Changes in Body:

Do you know what really happens to your body if you get tensed? Actually our nervous system gets frustrated . This frustration automatically accelerates heart to beat faster, muscles become harder and sweating will be high. It disturbs your total Central Nervous system and makes you weaker. So Physically sitting or lying in a relaxed posture and wearing loosely fitting clothes and taking a pleasant shower will cool your state of mind considerably.

Take a deep Breath:

Whenever you are in angry mood, inhale deeply and have a deep breath. This will force you to intake more oxygen to your brain and it slows down your heart beat rate. Breath 4 or 5 times deeply at angry stage and you feel yourself that your mind is becoming fresh and calm. You will definitely feel your mind’s  change of state quickly

Counting Numbers:

This is also a one of good practice to calm down your mind. That too Counting the numbers in reverse order will even give much benefit than normal counting. This will allow you to distract you from your angry state of mind to some kind of counting concentration. Imagine you are feeling better and better when you are moving to the next number. You can do this exercise anywhere whether you are at Work place, home, theater , shopping mall and anywhere you feel when some situation arises that frustrates you.

Move out from Upset situation:

Suppose let us consider the situation that you are upset with your wife for a thing she has done already and you know that the situation is going to escalate to a quarrel shortly. During times like this, it will help you a lot if you move out physically from that place instead of arguing with her for some act which she had already committed. First stand up from that place, wear your shirt, tell her that you are really upset and go outside. Physically removing yourself and avoiding the unfavorable situation  is one of the best practice to follow to stop getting upset easily.

P.S :Someone commented that it is a bad idea to walkout of a situation and it is better to stand and face it.Yes,That is true for certain cases but remember we are talking about what to do when you face small issues. These kind of issues generally tend to fade away if you don’t make it bigger by saying or doing something stupid in the heat of the situation.

Take a Long Walk:

Walking is a good exercise to let your mind that upset feeling down. Try to find a park nearby your place or a nature green field.  Walk as much as possible. Imagine that each step you are letting your frustration down through your feet. Increase your number of rounds in park  until you feel calm and comfort.Ideally you can combine it with the previous technique to make it more effective. ie.. when you move out from the problem situation you can go out and take a walk by the Park.

Accept your Thought:

Try to observe your thought at the time of anger and frustration. Accept that you are upset. Getting Upset is a natural human emotion and we are experiencing from time to time. That’s all. Make a note of the reasons for why you should get angry? Make a list of it. Analyse yourself the reason that whether it is really worth and try to avoid that thing from the next time on wards. If the reason is a valid one try to accustom yourself to the real thing.

Self Realization:

Imagine that you are driving your new car. Think that a car from your rear side is trying to overtake yours And for that he is driving rashly and even coming closer like hitting the car and making scratches. Really you will feel upset right? On that time you should practice to tell yourself that these overtaking and rash driving are common while driving. We should not get tensed or upset for this  and all. Becoming upset instead of driving will even worse your driving skills and it will lead to disturb your concentration in driving and thereby making some other accident to occur. So calm yourself by saying “Some people are like this only.” You won’t be able to change the world. Instead  try to change yourself by not getting upset over small things.

Listen to Music:

Music has an extraordinary power to bring back calmness in your disturbed mind. Everyone loves to hear music, right? It’s a scientific and proven method to get yourself relaxed. There is no language for Music hence you can hear whatever you like whether it is classical, jazz, pop or rock. But some sort of classical and light music are more effective to spread happiness in both your mind and soul.

Overtaking Negative Thoughts:

Humans are generally well accustomed to negative thought rather than positive thinking. But you should compensate that negative thought by indulging positive thought over it and thereby creating a happier situation to yourself.  Sometimes you may think that “Nothing happens right for me, everything always getting messed up”. In this time you should change your thinking as “ Everything will be alright sooner” “The Day is mine and I will achieve it with the almighty “ “ I have ability to do and I will prove to world who am I” . Like this you have to re frame your thoughts by analyzing it

Do Physical Work

Doing physical work will release your tension. It will give you some sort of relaxation on completing the work. Go to your garden, pour water to all the plants. On finishing this activity, you will definitely feel a happier state of mind on seeing the faces of flowers which silently smiles and thanking you for watering it.

  • Clean unwanted garbage in the garden
  • Cut unwanted branches in the tree
  • Do Exercise  and regular exercise will relax and regulate your mood

Meditation:

Meditation is the best way to lower your stress level. Regular practice of meditation helps you to keep always in a happier mind. Early morning meditation improves your mind ability and it gives you always a free state of mind

Try this simple steps when you get frustrated try to practice these techniques on how to not get upset or angry over small things.

How to Change your drinking habit – Part Two

Today you can see most of the people around us are addicted to any one of the bad habits. Somehow or other they are addicted and now they are struggling to come out from the same. They even don’t know what to do to overcome this habit. Whatever the habit, whether the habit is minor one like biting the nail with your teeth or major health ruining habits like smoking / liquor drinking, a small conscious effort will make you to get away the habit from you. If you are the person who is looking for the remedy and by chance you are reading this article, I can tell for sure that you are the most blessed one.

Change drinking habit
Change drinking habit

Make a note:

If you are a person willing to overcome a habit, Put a habit notebook separately and enter your actions. Watch yourself for at least one week or 10 days.  Try to make note of the habit on regular intervals, whenever you do the habit or feel tempted to perform it. This helps you to find yourself how often you are forced to practice the habit. After analyzing the frequency of doing, slowly cut down the numbers. If suppose you are addicted to junk food for 5 times a day, try to bring the no. of times from 5 to 4 per day , then from 4 to 3, like this. This will help you to minimize the habit and at certain stage you find yourself out of the habit naturally.

Think over the bad effects of the bad habit

If you feel that everything goes smoothly from morning to evening till the time comes for you  touching the alcohol and you are very much aware that drinking is not good for health and still you are not  able to stop? .Well. Think over the aftermath of drinking which happens suddenly consuming liquor. First of all, you yourself don’t know what you are doing under the influence of alcohol. That is, you are doing thinks even without your knowledge. You may experience the situation that you and your friend would have gone together for boozing last night and if you see him at morning he will not speak with you or even he will stare at you. You didn’t know what exactly happened yesterday night and after that you come to know the real situation that there was a quarrel between you and your companion. Just a liquid makes you to do things without your conscious. Only animals do things without their knowledge .You are human..right?. Definitely you may experience the hangover tomorrow morning which makes you to feel uncomfortable. It is an obstacle for doing your duty. Your regular works are affected by this headache it produces. Finally all your works are spoiled just due to the intake of alcohol last night.

Mainly, your social status will be completely diminished.

Think about the health problems like Tuberculosis, cancer formed due to smoking and liver bulging, , jaundice,  heart attack, nervous weakness due to liquor drinking. Kindly note here if you have any problem in kidney it may be adjusted since humans are having 2 kidneys. if one is affected , it can be managed by the other one or even you can undergo kidney transplantation or something like that. But if Liver is affected, nothing can be done.  No transplantation can be made. Such a difficult and wonderful part it is. Jaundice is a silent killer.

Think about the family for a while

Think about the situation of your family if suppose something has happened to you. You may definitely have beautiful partner, lovable kids and affectionate parents.  Who will look after them? Who will take care them?

Anybody will replace your loss? Moreover is there any replacement? You are unique and no one should fulfill your place.  If you feel next time to think about smoking/ drinking, bring all this things into your mind. Think for a while. Why should you want to spoil your own health and put your near and dears into unpleasant situation.  Those who are having real affection with their family won’t do this habit if they think about these things…Right? Hope you are also having true affection?

Changing the game over

Keeping all this things in mind, try to avoid this bad habit by paying little attention over it. If you feel to have liquor, change your mind set. Go to a super market and have any health drink. It will improve your stamina. Have real fresh juices like Mango, Orange and grapes. It contains more vitamins.

If you feel smoking, have a cup of green tea instead. It will refresh you. It will make you to do your work more active. Chew bubble gum whenever you feel smoking. It is an exercise for your face making the muscles stronger and brings your face a correct shape.

Keeping Stomach full

This is one of the easiest ways to avoid drinking. Don’t let your stomach to feel hungry. If you feel hungry, give something to grind your intestine. At any cost don’t leave your stomach empty. Because an empty stomach can induce drinking feel. If you keep your stomach full, then you are not possible to take anything more and gradually you won’t take alcohol also.

Getting rid of habit temptation

Takeaway all the things which makes you to remember the habit. If you are a regular drinker, take away all the old bottles from your house and throw it in dustbin. Don’t meet people who tempt you to drink. Avoid those persons. They are more dangerous. They themselves will not recover from the habit and never allow others like you to recover. First of all, cut their friendship.

If you cross or visit places which makes you to feel drink. Don’t go there. Instead take alternate direction and travel in some other way or street.

If you are accustomed to drink daily by a certain time, utilize the time for any other creative work . Engage yourself. Spend quality time with your children. Play with them. Go to nearby park with your kids and discuss with them. Have a friendly chat. This will make them to feel happy and pleasant.

Avoid the objects, people and places which force you to fall in the habit.

Other way around

Consider you are a snacks eater often and you want to get rid of the bad habit. Move the junk food to difficult to access location in your kitchen/ dining hall. Delete the food items from your purchase list. Next time if you go to shopping mall, move away from the junk items section. Buy protein rich items instead. Don’t visit that particular area. Take with you the exact money for the purchase and don’t take with you any extra/ additional money so that you can avoid buying it.

If you think that you are spending most of your time with mobile itself wasting precious time unwanted and planning in mind not to practice it anymore. Attend calls only if you feel it as important. Avoid unnecessary argument with friends over phone.  Try to convey the matter in simple way. Close the subject short and sweetly. Try not to roaming always on internet. Don’t view unnecessary advertisement. Activate Airplane mode. Suppose If you are In hall, keep the phone in some other room.

Making the habit unpleasant

Adding extra thing to the habit for the sake of making it unpleasant is the other way to come out from the habit. Good example for this is nail biting. If you feel you are a continuous nail bitter, apply something on your nail which you don’t like or makes you to irritate. There are some products available which gives bad odor or souring taste each time you bring your finger near your mouth to bite.

Be cautious

If you feel yourself that you are suppose going to do the habit again, keep thinking yourself that you are succeeding in the process of practicing the bad habit to let off and you should not return to the same nasty condition again. Give orders to your mind “Don’t do it, Don’t do it” continuously. Get away from the situation. If your smoking friend is taking one from cigarette pocket, tell him “No thanks. No thanks”. Change the topic and start speaking some other interesting subject. So that you are also able to escape from the compulsion scenario.

Appreciate yourself

If you find Success in achieving your target of leaving the bad habit for the first time, Award and appreciate yourself. See the level of confidence you had on that time. Give simple treat to yourself. It may take several attempts to reach this stage. But don’t give up. Be positive. Once you taste the success, you will be able to follow it continuously.

Change the place

Relieving from the habit will be made possible if you are put in a different location. A change of place will place a new change in your life. Because old and same place may induce you to do the habit again and again. Brain is accustomed in that way only. Go for a weekend trip. Visit new places with friends/ family.  Enjoy the different situation

Utilizing the same time for good one

If you have been wasted 2 or 3 hours per day for drinking and now you are trying to come out from the bad thing…Good. Use this time for a more creative and useful purpose.  Join a drawing class. Bring out the artist within you. If you don’t know how to swim, join swimming class. It will be very useful when a critical situation arises. Why not try for a gym? Improve your body physic and structure. Be healthy.

Exercise regularly

Exercise will bring you out from the habit and make you feel comfortable. If you start giving importance to maintain your health, you won’t again go for the bad habit which affects the health. So practice exercise

Seek help

If you feel disguised, contact your friend or well wisher who is having true interest over you . Put your ears on their advise. Call them whenever you feel negative. Ask them to give you some examples of how they left the habit

Meditation

When you feel you are going to fall in the bad habit again, immediately meditate. Stop doing things whatever it may be. Close your eyes and be feel yourself strong that you have capacity to overcome this simple thing. It is nothing to you and feel you have more powers within you.  Think “You can and certainly you will be”.

How to feel excited about life again after a breakup

Most people feel that a Break-up is the end of their life.There is so much life to live after a heartbreak but some people think to end up your life by taking wrong decisions .To be strong during break up is somewhat hard only, but it is not impossible. You can change the impossible to possible by bringing out  little changes in your mind set. That’s so simple as that. Break up is normal happening these days  and you should be well prepared to accustom whatever the worst comes in your life because you never know what will happen at the next second in your life. If you are ready to handle this situation this article will help to find ways of handling the same in a positive manner.

Feel excited again in life after breakup
Feel excited again in life after breakup

Be Practical:

Set right your mind. Understand that pain is normal to all and you are not the exemption for that. Accept the pain and adjust your mind set according to the situation. You are not the only person in the world who experienced break up and there is more and more number of persons waiting in the court queue daily for their separation legally. Whatever the case it may be, from just married couples who lived together for just 2 or 3 months to long lived couples for 20 or 30 years. So you should not feel that you are the unique in this world struggling worse. There are many more known/unknown cases that are even worse than you. This is true and you should believe it

Cry Loud

Let the sorrow be out from your mind in the form of tears. Recent Research tells,” Those who cries a lot in their sadness relieves quickly than those who didn’t cry”. So, don’t feel shy to cry. If you keep your sorrows within you dumping in the brain itself, it increases the pressure, affects your nervous systems which in turn make you sick.  Cry loud and release your sorrow to go off from you. Try someone’s shoulder that you can trust.   Allow your tears to shed and be feel relaxed

Identifying and find the root cause

Imagine you and your girl friend are dating for the last 4 or 5 years and consider the terrible situation that you two have been break up recently somehow or  other due to some reasons. It’s really pathetic..Know?  Maximum Try to convince her for the thing which made you for break up. Be honest in your reason and don’t ever try to cheat the lady love. It’s not good for a healthy life. Tell her that error is human nature. Promise her for not repeating the same mistake. Not only the same mistake, try to mostly avoid any kind of mistake which hurts her.  Most probably she will be convinced if both of you have a good understanding.  Speak with her open heartedly. Most of the problem in this world will be solved if both the side’s views are spoken clearly without any ego. Even problem between two countries is solved by UNO just by conversation and by examining their views. Or otherwise it will lead to war between two countries. If a war can be stopped by mutual and open discussion why not yours. So try definitely you will be succeeded

Analyze your inner thought

Breakups can make you to doubt your self worth. It may make you to feel “You are useless and fit for nothing” or “you are the victim and this breakup will ruin your life”. Remember these are your own feeling and most probably these things are not as true as you feel. Worldly things are different from your inner feel. Sometimes it is totally controversial.   Change your mind to think as “This is not my fault” and “You are in pain now and Anyway it will be OK shortly “.

Think about the positive and good character you have. Think about any help you did to your friend and his appreciation how supportive you are?

Avoid violence activity like punching the door, hitting the car, breaking the glass or even tearing the pillow. It will not definitely going to solve your problem and it increase your anger and pressure only.

Distract your mind

Don’t going on thinking about the past thing-the breakup. What happened is happened only. You are not going to rewind back to the Past and set right the things. However it is not possible also to restructure a thing which happened in the past since time can’t be brought back.  Instead allow your mind to concentrate on creative things . Keep yourself busy.

If you know painting, try to paint a natural scene with mountains and rivers. Paint a smiling baby face. It decreases your tension.

Write a poem on your own. Don’t care about the grammar mistake. As per medical studies, Writing cut down your tension and stress into half

Hear Good music. Listening to music throws away all your depression and makes you fresh

Go to a pub and dance. Dancing skill makes both your body and mind active

Read nice books. Reading self confidence books will boost your energy.

Don’t again and again feel about the break up only and try to distract the mind to any of the above said thing since distraction is the immediate medicine which will heal the mind wound and relieves pain

Positive self improvement Quotes

The result of break up surely makes you to feel unworthy and making negative things to enter your mind. You may think “You are unlucky or your life is full of destruction and sorrows or success is far away from your life” .Don’t let this type of things in your mind. Paste the following proverbs in the hand wash mirror, windows or doors

You are the special person in the world and you are here to achieve something in the world

You are capable and nobody is equivalent to you

God is always with you and you can do anything with his blessings

You are here to make wonder in the world

Nobody will replace your position and you are such a valuable person

You are lovable and caring and many more people need you

Stick these messages wherever possible and often see this

Throw away the mementos and gifts

Get rid of your ex’s things you have. Throw it off to dustbin. Do you think holding your ex’s photo or any gift with you will change the situation. Past is past. It will hold you from healing and not allow moving on. Don’t visit places where you used to meet your ex. identify a new date spot and try to form new relationship.

Never try to contact your Ex. Delete his/her phone number from the contact list.

Remember keeping things of a relationship you don’t have any more will nothing to do

Stay away from phone. Block the contact. Don’t look up the pages in social media.

Exercise

Exercise is the best way to vent of tension and stress. Regular exercise will keep you to stay fit and calm. Endorphins which released in brain during exercise makes you feel happy. Allot at least 30 minutes time daily.

Travel and stay outdoors

Meet your friends and plan for an outing. Go to hill station. Have a nice bath in waterfalls. Go for a trekking. Light campfire and sing your favorite song with friends. A change of place will definitely bring you a change in mind state. Enjoy the nature up to the full swing.   Laugh with your friends as Laughter is the best medicine for pain.

Outlook change

Go to Spa and change your hair style. By changing the hairstyle you really get a new look. Keep in mind this new look should be in the way which should boost your confident level.

Join a gym. Bring your physic in shape. Having fit body increases confident within you.

Visit shopping mall and buy a perfect outfit which fits your shape. Try for a new variety which you never wear.

Try to bring a change within you.

Getting a new opportunity and changing your interest over other

Your girl friend/ wife may have breakup with you. Do you think “Life is over just because of this single person?”  Get Lesson from this breakup. Understand this is just a part of life. Also remember he/she is not the exact pair may be and that’s why you met with break up without mutual understanding. Utilize the opportunity. Now you are free and you may get a chance to find out a real apt pair for you. Identify a person who really impresses you as per your taste. Do you think that your Ex is the single available opposite sex in the world for your love or to live together? There are plenty of people who will love you even better than your Ex. Start a new happy life