Mirroring body language-Mirroring Definition Psychology and Practical applications in Real life

Mirroring is one of the most usable tool from Neuro linguistic Programming that can be put to use in our day to day real life situations though its usage is widely known in the dating and flirting scenarios.Mirroring is a Rapport gaining Technique.Mirroring body language creates instant Rapport between two people,even between complete strangers.

Mirroring Body Language
Mirroring Body Language

One of my clients who learned the Mirroring Technique from me Wrote back to me,as below…
I just finished reading your work and of course I’m going to read it again and again but just to make sure I understand. The only thing necessary to master this skill is to be able to catch what non verbal communication they do and mimic that and they will feel a connection with you and like you?

Mirroring Body Language
Mirroring Body Language

My Answer is…
YES.
Technically in NLP (Neuro linguistic Programming) we call this ‘Make anyone like you’ thing as RAPPORT.
Once you gain the RAPPORT with anyone they will Listen to you and continue further conversation with you with interest.
If you don’t gain initial Rapport the other person will try to end the conversation and get on with their business.
What we are doing here by mimicking their ‘nonverbal hello’ is…we are sending a message to their subconscious that you are similar to the other person.This will make them like you.

If you still wonder how this could work out…I would recommend you to Try this with people in real life….Start with ordinary people like your subordinate or waiter etc…before trying it on your boss.And,get back to with your feedback.I will help you to integrate this working technique in real life.
Never hesitate to contact me anytime.

How to write a mean letter to someone who has hurt you-Examples and Case Study

The following is the review of one the Example Review of a mean letter written by someone who is hurt by a homewrecker.The following is what i wrote back to her.

I have read ever single thing you sent me.I have just three things to correct because Your Letter is already perfect and i find it hard to find
faults

#1
You are starting your letter with accusation like below

“You don’t seem to have the Time or energy to respond to my messages? Hilarious but you have the time and energy to be a homewrecker and cheat with my man behind my back.  Here you go…We are all well aware that the man is to blame too. However, if women kept their legs and HEARTS closed to Married men then they would be unable to cheat!”

When she reads the first few lines she is going to get defensive and will not probably read the rest of the letter or she might just read it fast.To make her Read the full letter you must start the letter with the ‘Agreement frame’ or the ‘Secret Frame’

Example of how you can start with the Agreement Frame:

I read your text and i cannot help but agree with some of the things you said…
(This will feed her curiosity and make her read the whole letter hoping to find what you agree with. Actually you don’t have to agree with anything she said.It is just a ploy to make her read the whole letter,sometimes she will be reading again to find out what she missed while reading the first time.That’s the way you can make her feel weak.)

The Secret Frame is similar.Start by saying

I shouldn’t be saying these things to you and i should be keeping this as a secret but i thought it would be nice if you know these too…(She should be searching the whole letter for the secret and of course she is not going to find anything because you are not going to say anything)

#2
Your letter is good.But it lacks only one thing.A outcome.If i were writing a letter to her my outcome will be to confuse her and stop her from having a nice time with my ex.

What if i confuse her and make her argue with Peter about something he doesn’t like.He is just out of a break up and the last thing
he want is a nagging women asking him to give a committed relationship.

So i would say something like below….
“I imagined how pathetic you will feel once Peter leaves you and your  kids for another home wrecker.At that moment i felt sad…
Sad because Peter will never consider having children with low life women like you and so you will never experience the abandonment with your
kids.If you don’t believe me just take some time and watch out how things unfold between you and him… ”

Imagine after reading those lines she gives pressure to Peter to have a committed relationship.I can’t give the whole thing….but hope you get the drift.You can even change the Plot to something else if you don’t like the Kid stuff i have come up with….But have a outcome in mind while writing the letter.

#3
Your letter is too long.You need to remove unneeded paragraphs if you her to read the whole letter.

Otherwise your letter is good.I wish you good luck.