How to Persuade and convince investors to invest in your ideas

If you are an entrepreneur with a good business idea but don’t have the funds then you need investor to invest in your ideas to take it off the ground. It is not enough to have a good business idea alone but you would also need to have persuasive skills to convince investors to invest in your ideas.

The skill set you need to influence a businessman is vast to cover for his article but we can show a basic framework within which we can operate to get funds.

The first thing i would come up with is the “Outcome”.The Outcome of the Meeting.
1.Outcome

Outcome: Make him Invest money in My Product.

Then i would ask myself ‘what qualities i should project to …Make him Invest money in your Product.’

Example Answers:
Prove him you have a strong moral background and ethics.(Even money minded investors will love a honest Product owner)
Prove him that there is a strong demand for that Product in the Market.
Prove that he would profit from investing.

So how am i going to prove all this to him?

With my words.In the course of my Conversation.
The key is story telling.
Let me tell that again in case you missed it the first time.The key is story telling.

So how can you tell stories to a seasoned Businessman.A bigshot Investor.

Here is how…I have to prove that there is a demand for my Product.So in the course of my conversation i
would say some thing like…
“When i was first manufacturing My dog food from my own kitchen we could not keep up with the demand
and there were some customers who were mad at us because their dogs got used to our dog food and they were
not eating other brand dog foods well.They were telling mean things like ‘If you can’t manufacture enough and
satisfy your customers why are you running a business’
That’s why we are planning to get a commercial unit to manufacture the dog food’ and we are seeking investors.”

I hope you get the Idea of story telling.
Story telling is one of the Tools of conversational hypnosis that i use in almost all scenarios of conversation.

2.Set the Frame of the Conversation
So all i am going to talk about in the conversation should be within the Frames of Proving that i am a trustworthy person
and that my product has great demand in market and that he would profit greatly by investing in it.
If you aimlessly wander in your conversation you may end up telling your weak links and the investor may get disinterested.Also you may stall in your conversation.

I should be having all the Business information and statistics ready.

3.Get Instant Rapport with the Investor.
My ‘How to make people like you instantly’gig will help you to that.

Derailing Conversations-A Dummies guide to tone policing and other Conversation tactics

Since this is a Dummies guide let’s start from the very beginning.
Define Derailing a Conversation….How does Derailing help you?
In any group conversation or group discussion there will always be sub groups of people who will align with your line of thinking and ideology and agree or like what you are saying.Most likely,there will be another sub set of people who have different perceptions and ideology and experiences than you and your support group share.They may come from a different background and they may have completely opposite experiences about the things you are talking about in your discussion.Eventually one of a person from your opposing group may get offended or feel unhappy about something you say and may interfere while you are talking.
If you ever give them an inch and let them talk they will go to any length to humiliate you in front of your sub group and make you eat your words.
Derailing_Conversations_For_Dummies
Derailing_Conversations_For_Dummies
If you ever get yourself in this situation ‘Derailing a conversation’ is the only skill or Tool that you are going to need to put Duct tape on your opponent’s mouth and make them feel small in front of the Group.A well executed derailment can earn appreciation from the members of the opponent Sub Group also and may make the members of your sub group consider you as their leader.
If you don’t understand parts of what i told above you will get clarity once you listen me explaining the real life scenarios where you can apply your new learnt skill of ‘Derailing a conversation’ with real examples.
Scenario #1:
You are put in to a Group discussion where the candidates have to talk against or supporting a social issue.The Interviewers are seated to watch the gladiator in you getting eaten by the hungry tigers.You take the lead and start the Conversation and have some people nodding in support of your views when you hear a fierce voice interfering your train of thoughts.It’s some one from the opposing sub group who was offended by something you said or just another candidate trying to grab your job from your reach.If you don’t take the sword of ‘Derailing Conversations’ and use it on your opponent they are going to make you a spectacle and run away with your job.The Trick is to silence your opponent artfully and gracefully without inviting further uprisings from others ,else Ceaser watching over the match will be giving you a thumbs down and you may go home empty handed.
Scenario #2:
You are the Team leader and you are Suggesting your Plan of action for the Management’s Problem and one of your team member questions your Plan and is about to Pitch his own Plan.
Worst case scenario-You lose the grace of the Management and the Team member becomes your Leader.
Best case scenario-You Derailing the Conversation with Tone Policing and entertaining the Management all the while
So what is Common in all the above Real life scenarios?
There is your Opponent you have to silence and there is also a higher authority who is overseeing you.You not only have to Derail the conversation and trivialize your opponent but also have to do it subtly without letting the Management or higher authority Interfere.
By ‘Derailing a conversation’ what we mean really are ways to detract,silence,belittle, devalue ,deprecate,decry the validity of a statement by attacking the tone or person rather than the message.
Derailing or Tone Policing can be effectively done if you have higher authority and you are in the privileged group.To explain this Point let’s say you are talking with your town people about the visitors from the neighboring spoiling your town’s safety.If there is a particular person who originally came and settled from the neighboring town in the group he may get offended and may argue against your argument.In this scenario the Opponent is having lesser advantage and you are in a Prevailed position because you have the home crowd support.

Social Confidence Secrets -101 Techniques to become socially confident.

Social confidence Secrets are techniques and practical methods suggested by social confidence coaches to gain effortless social confidence to experience a happy social life. If you think you are lacking in self confidence and are avoiding social situations then developing the needed social skills is all that is required to  turn the tables and enjoy social conversations and situations.

The  following are some of the secrets to gain social confidence shared by contributors who successfully  overcame their limitation and lived the life they dreamed to live.

1.Uproot your Low self esteem:

If you are lacking in confidence to socially mingle and have a nice time with other people the primary reason might be your Low self Esteem. You should be aware that getting rid of your low self esteem should be one of the first things you should be doing to become a confident person.

a.If you have low self esteem you should be also having a reason for having it.The reason may range from bad childhood to chronic physical conditions.Let’s take the bad childhood example,say.John is 35 years old and is single with no real friends.John had forgettable bad childhood memories,his father used to disgrace him by scolding in front of his friends and classmates.Now all John has to do is to forget his forgettable bad childhood and move on and try to get dates and friends like the rest of his friends do.But John chose to Cling on to his old bitter memories and it had its negative effect on his life.If you are watching John character in a movie you may say “John!Forgive your parents and let go of your past.Your heroine is loving you but you are turning her off with your attitude.”

Sometimes it is easy to get rid of your low self esteem,as easy as forgetting something that doesn’t need to be remembered anyway.

2.Rehearse your social confidence in your mind:

I have seen this technique recommended for making Public speech in front of a large audience.If it works for a large audience why not let it work on a one to one meeting with someone?The situation is this…You have to spend a hour or two with someone and you want to make a good impression on the other person.So you can just imagine the flow of the things that is about to happen just like a flash forward.The Trick is make it positive and don’t think about failure.There are many ways you can go about this,you can just sit back and watch yourself as the confident person you want to be doing the things that need to be done easily in your mind movie.Or your can Brian storm how things will go positively in the meeting.See the other person attracted to you and what you have to offer,picture yourself impressing them and feel good about it.

The trick about rehearsing social situations in you mind is to visualize only the flow of things that you want to happen.Don’t plan minute details like what words you will use in your conversation.

3.Practice and Rehearse you social confidence in less intimidating situations:

Picture this.You have to meet your landlord in a couple of days  to persuade him to lower the rent or even not to raise the rent.Now if you are not a people person it may be a intimidating situation for you.You can start practicing persuading people in non-intimidating situations so that you can gain some confidence in your social skills and it will definitely carry forward when you are going to negotiate with your landlord about the rent.

Asking your office peon to run some errand for you or persuading your kids to complete some small tasks are some of the things that are examples for non-intimidating persuasion scenarios.

4.Improve your social confidence with physical exercises.

This is one of the best secret for improving your social confidence.If you are not feeling socially powerful or confident ask yourself how you would feel if you have the body of Brad Pitt or whoever you think is Hot and confident.

If you are still wondering what physical exercises has got to do with social confidence then let me rephrase it-Physical good looks and Social Confidence-How does it sound now.

It has been scientifically proved that doing 5 minutes of physical exercise a day will make someone 70% more healthier than when he is doing no physical exercise at all.
Having a great body makes you feel good about yourself and give you the confidence to take on any social situation.
One of my social media follower who was constantly depressed and was having social anxiety suddenly started sharing pictures of himself with hot women.He was looking good and happy.I had a chat with him to know the reason behind this positive change.He revealed that it all started when he started watching MMA-Mixed martial Arts videos in youtube. He started exercising and his looks improved.He got confident that he can handle ant social situation.He started hanging out in the right places and mingled with the right people.He got a better job which he loved doing and everything started going northwards for him.
If you are fifty plus this may not be the secret you are searching for to improve your social confidence but if you are anywhere around your Thirties just do some physical exercises daily and watch it improve your health and physique and your social confidence.
5.Improve your Conversational skills
Nine out of ten times a person’s social anxiety is all because of his lack of conversation skills.People lacking in conversation skills start avoiding people and soon their confidence in social situations take a hit.If you feel that you are shy or having social anxiety the first thing that you should be doing is to improve your communication skills.Most people think that there is nothing to learn about communication skill and that interacting with people should come naturally.For now it would be better if you just trust me and start improving your communication.
Start by doing a self analysis and come up with particular things you are lacking in your conversations.For example if you are afraid of initiating conversations with people you know or with strangers start learning a few conversation starters and start practicing with strangers.You got nothing to lose by trying and got everything to gain.If you have difficulty expressing yourself then improve your vocabulary and learn some conversational tactics that will get you going without stalling.In shorts
start somewhere and start improving your conversation skills and you are going to enjoy social situations once you master conversations.
6.Practice your Hi and Hello:
7.Enhance your smile.Smile from your heart and let it show in your eyes.

 

 

How to change your Child’s negative attitude and behaviour with Storytelling

Not all parents know the power of positive thinking and how with negative thoughts and attitudes
self sabotage our lives leading us in to worries ,phobias and ultimately in to depression.Personally i myself grew up as a Prince of Negative Thoughts and Attitudes as far as my memory goes in to my childhood.Worrying and anger were the Top negative issues i had growing up.I realized how these negative attitudes were playing their hand in keeping my life miserable and how i needed to think Positively to make my life better when i started reading some books on Positive thinking.I gradually changed myself from being a person with negative attitude to beome a positive person.

How to change a kid's negative attitude
How to change a kid’s negative attitude

I understand that we are here to learn about how to change our kids negative thoughts and attitudes and not to learn about myself.But if you are not seeing what i am doing here,i need you to understand that,if your child has negative attitude the first step is to make sure that your child didn’t inherit the negativity from you.In that case you have to start working on yourself and change yourself first and your child will pick up the positive glow from you and will change his or her negative ways eventually.

But if you are a Positive person with a nice attitude and your children have recently picked up unwanted negative attitudes from others we can easily change the child’s negative behaviour with storytelling.

First things first.Negative Behaviour or negative attitude is such a broad term.First we have to single out specifically what kind of negative attitude you want to change in your child and you have to tell the story to attack that particular trait.

Lets do a case study of how i helped my son with a story.
My son was kind of saying that he had no friends at school and at play.I wanted to help him out and i started to observe him while he is at play with his playmates.He was constantly getting angry at the other kids.I started to observe a pattern in the fights he picked up and found the root cause of his problem.He was making fun of the other kids and was teasing other kids.For example he would do something in play and say ‘I am the first,you are the last’ and the other kids hated him.If the other kids were better than him in doing something he got angry and went mad.When he came complaining to me i said “Let me tell you a story”.
The following is the actuall story i told him.I am sure that you can do better than me but i have shared my story for you just in case you need it and find it helpful.

Outcome:To persuade him not to make fun of other and mind his own business.

Story: Once there lived a boy who runs fast.He was the fastest runner in his class.One day the boy and his classmate were playing in the school ground and they were about to run a race when a new boy asked him if he can join the race.So all the three ran the race.Our boy was leading the race and he turned back and began to make fun of his classmates who is comming behind.He said ‘I am the first,you are last!”
When he finally looked ahead of the race track he noticed that the new boy who had joined them has now gained the lead and he is nearing the finish line.The New boy won the Race.Everyone congratulated the new boy and they asked him the secret of winning the race.
The boy turned to his classmate and said “If i had not turned back and mocked at you i would have won the race.i
was irritating you and i lost both your fiendship and the Race.
-The End-
Now,if you may say that this story is ordinary and it will never work in changing the child’s negative attitude of making fun of others.But it worked in a large way with my child and you may also understand how it worked when you hear me explaing how it worked.

Someone once asked me..”Why can’t you just tell your son to stop making fun of others and take of his own business directly.Why you need a story?”.I didn’t because that will not not help to change his attitude.If you are a parent you would have already tried telling and yelling commands directly at your child and one thing i bet you learned well is that it doesn’t work out that way.Why doesn’t it work?There is a psychological truth behind it.The consious mind of people does not like it when others tell them how to think and what to do.But when you tell a story,it is a metaphor.They have to go deep inside their mind and try wearing the character on them.They get the message unconsiously.It will get much more complicated if i try to explain in detail but i want you to come out with different stories for different problems you want to help your child with.And you that storytelling helps when you tell a good story and it works.

How to change the subject during a conversation and change the Topic

Often times we will be in situations where we won’t be feeling comfortable discussing some topics with some people.In such situations we may need to change the subject of the conversation away from what that makes you feel uncomfortable and towards topics that will give you a upper hand.

There are a whole lot of NLP power phrases available,which you can learn,to successfully do this in any conversation in your day to day life.Once you learn some of these and add it in your Toolkit the possibilities are Endless here…you can apply it in your Personal,Business or in your day to day conversations with strangers.We can successfully change the direction of a conversation towards the subject or topic you want it to Proceed but first you have to decide if you are going to do this the soft way or with authority.

The REDEFINE Pattern is a NLP technique that allows you change the topic of a conversation away from the topic you are not comfortable with authority and style.

The redefine pattern goes like this ‘The issue is not about ‘their subject’ but about ‘your subject’.

If you don’t understand the hang of this language pattern yet,stay with me,and you will realize the power of the REDEFINE pattern when i explain it with an example in a Business Scenario.

Scenario:
You are a Team leader and you are assigned a difficult Project that needs to be completed in the next two weeks.
You arrange a Team meeting and break this news to your team mates and they revolt saying how difficult the task is or how it is impossible to achieve in the given deadline.

Your team members are struck in a negative routine finding reasons why they cannot do the given task while you have organized this meeting to discuss how to plan this task.If you are going to say nothing your team members will eventually persuade the other members and even you to start thinking of ways to escape the task.But Luckily you know the REDEFINE pattern and know exactly what to say to steer them away from their negativity and Towards the subject that need to be addressed.

Picture this…..You stand up and say….
“The issue is not about the difficulty of this task but about how we are about to plan to complete it within the deadline,for which we all are getting paid .”

Just in case you don’t realize what you have done here
….You have closed all the doors and opened the only door to the room where you want to lock them in.Now you have indirectly suggested that the only thing that you are going to talk in this meeting is about the plans for achieving the given task and not about anything else.

Now that you have started to understand the power of the REDEFINE pattern to change the subject and direct the conversation to the topic you want to talk about.

Let’s see a variation of this technique in the sales scenario.You are a salesman and the customer is stalling from buying the product ,even though he likes it because he thinks it is overpriced.

You say….
“The Real Problem here is not that this Product is costing you a few extra bucks more but that it is exactly what you wanted for your home.”

Mirroring body language-Mirroring Definition Psychology and Practical applications in Real life

Mirroring is one of the most usable tool from Neuro linguistic Programming that can be put to use in our day to day real life situations though its usage is widely known in the dating and flirting scenarios.Mirroring is a Rapport gaining Technique.Mirroring body language creates instant Rapport between two people,even between complete strangers.

Mirroring Body Language
Mirroring Body Language

One of my clients who learned the Mirroring Technique from me Wrote back to me,as below…
I just finished reading your work and of course I’m going to read it again and again but just to make sure I understand. The only thing necessary to master this skill is to be able to catch what non verbal communication they do and mimic that and they will feel a connection with you and like you?

Mirroring Body Language
Mirroring Body Language

My Answer is…
YES.
Technically in NLP (Neuro linguistic Programming) we call this ‘Make anyone like you’ thing as RAPPORT.
Once you gain the RAPPORT with anyone they will Listen to you and continue further conversation with you with interest.
If you don’t gain initial Rapport the other person will try to end the conversation and get on with their business.
What we are doing here by mimicking their ‘nonverbal hello’ is…we are sending a message to their subconscious that you are similar to the other person.This will make them like you.

If you still wonder how this could work out…I would recommend you to Try this with people in real life….Start with ordinary people like your subordinate or waiter etc…before trying it on your boss.And,get back to with your feedback.I will help you to integrate this working technique in real life.
Never hesitate to contact me anytime.

How to write a mean letter to someone who has hurt you-Examples and Case Study

The following is the review of one the Example Review of a mean letter written by someone who is hurt by a homewrecker.The following is what i wrote back to her.

I have read ever single thing you sent me.I have just three things to correct because Your Letter is already perfect and i find it hard to find
faults

#1
You are starting your letter with accusation like below

“You don’t seem to have the Time or energy to respond to my messages? Hilarious but you have the time and energy to be a homewrecker and cheat with my man behind my back.  Here you go…We are all well aware that the man is to blame too. However, if women kept their legs and HEARTS closed to Married men then they would be unable to cheat!”

When she reads the first few lines she is going to get defensive and will not probably read the rest of the letter or she might just read it fast.To make her Read the full letter you must start the letter with the ‘Agreement frame’ or the ‘Secret Frame’

Example of how you can start with the Agreement Frame:

I read your text and i cannot help but agree with some of the things you said…
(This will feed her curiosity and make her read the whole letter hoping to find what you agree with. Actually you don’t have to agree with anything she said.It is just a ploy to make her read the whole letter,sometimes she will be reading again to find out what she missed while reading the first time.That’s the way you can make her feel weak.)

The Secret Frame is similar.Start by saying

I shouldn’t be saying these things to you and i should be keeping this as a secret but i thought it would be nice if you know these too…(She should be searching the whole letter for the secret and of course she is not going to find anything because you are not going to say anything)

#2
Your letter is good.But it lacks only one thing.A outcome.If i were writing a letter to her my outcome will be to confuse her and stop her from having a nice time with my ex.

What if i confuse her and make her argue with Peter about something he doesn’t like.He is just out of a break up and the last thing
he want is a nagging women asking him to give a committed relationship.

So i would say something like below….
“I imagined how pathetic you will feel once Peter leaves you and your  kids for another home wrecker.At that moment i felt sad…
Sad because Peter will never consider having children with low life women like you and so you will never experience the abandonment with your
kids.If you don’t believe me just take some time and watch out how things unfold between you and him… ”

Imagine after reading those lines she gives pressure to Peter to have a committed relationship.I can’t give the whole thing….but hope you get the drift.You can even change the Plot to something else if you don’t like the Kid stuff i have come up with….But have a outcome in mind while writing the letter.

#3
Your letter is too long.You need to remove unneeded paragraphs if you her to read the whole letter.

Otherwise your letter is good.I wish you good luck.

 

How to haggle and bargain and lower the price

Have you ever bought a Product for a higher Price only to find out that your neighbor or Relative has bought the same Product at a much lower Price.You may get a sulking feeling right at that point of time but looking at the bright side of things,what they know is the valuable skill of haggling and the good news is you to can be a good haggler and convince anyone to lower the price while buying anything.

Lets take a real life scenario….you are interested in buying something from a seller and you have to convince them to lower the price.Wow!A really interesting way to profit from your People skills.I can think of a lot of techniques from Neuro Linguistic Programming  to Psychology that can be applied here to haggle and get the price reduced.Let’s take a step by step approach to haggling for reducing the price of things you purchase.

0.Break the internal Resistance:

Before even starting your first step in to haggling i got something.I do this every time when i am not good at something but want to become a expert on it.Most people who don’t know the value of this step will consider this as just fluff step but let me enlighten you by asking a question.

Do you know what stops you from haggling for a better deal while others are doing it?

The answer is ‘You’.You and you only are Resisting your development to become a better bargainer.It’s the voice inside your mid that has been saying things like ‘He/she won’t lower the price’ or ‘He/she can’t afford to Reduce the Price’ etc…

Now,Relax and sit back and ask yourself ‘What stops you from becoming a expert haggler or at least a better bargainer’?

You will come up with answers like ‘I am scared that the seller will get offended’ to thousand different answers based on who is asking the question.But the answer is the resistance that we are providing to ourselves from getting good at Bargaining.So lets’s say my Answer is ‘I am worried that the Sellers will say something insulting’ like ‘Get out of my shop if you don’t want to buy’ .

So i will Rationalize thus…

Will i enter his shop again if he says such a thing and whose loss is it?If you can Come up with something that will negate and Kill your Resistance then you have done this step right.

In Reality sellers will have a Benchmark Price that they will have in mind.They will first Try to sell you stuff with a higher Profit margin.But if you Prove to them that you are a lovable haggler then they normally would part with their stuff if you ask a Price that is somewhat near the Price in their mind.

1. Mindset of a haggler-The Psychology of a Bargainer

It Doesn’t mater even if you are the shyest person in the universe just for the moment picture yourself as a master haggler or put yourself in the shoes of a master bargainer.You can come back and be the shy person later but just for the moment imagine that you can talk your way in to and out of anything.And Today you are going to enjoy your experience of haggling with that seller over there and get his wares at a special price.You just Enjoy the whole Process of Haggling and bargaining not just the part where you get stuff at a steal price.

You need to have a hagglers mindset to become a haggler.You can get such mindset either by using Affirmations or by Modelling a Expert bargainer.

I have a lot to say about these two techniques of Affirmations and Modelling by i will just give a Brief intro here.

Affirmations:

Affirmation is a technique where you repeat a Positive catch phrase often to yourself and your unconscious mind starts believing what you say to be true.Often we use this same affirmation technique negatively to make us less secure.For example so many people say often to themselves ‘I am not good at xyz’ and guess what…they have really succeeded in making themselves suck at doing xyz.I guess that you can get an idea about how powerful affirmations are.Let’s frame some Affirmation phrase for our bargaining scenario now.

“I am a master Haggler and i love to haggle”

“I am becoming better and better at haggling and i love it”

“I am happy to be the expert Haggler that i am now.”

The above are just examples and you an personalize your own affirmation sentence yourself.The only rule is don’t use any negative words in your catch phrase.A good example will be “I don’t fear haggling anymore” since the presence of word fear will make you unconsciously fear.

Once you have formed your catch phrase you have to keep reminding yourself by repeating the sentence again and gain.Chant it like mad.Chant it like a Buddhist monk who chants ‘Om mani padme hum’.

Modeling:

Do you know anyone in your fiends or relatives circle who is an expert haggler?Who can bargain and get a deal even in a supermarket? If You can model their haggling behavior you will be surprised at the results you get.Modeling is just observing an expert haggler’s voice tone,body language,physiology while he or she is at their act and mimicking them while you haggle.If you cannot wrap your head around how this will help you then you can sidestep the ‘Modeling’ technique but the fact is it works,every time and always.So i would personally recommend you to try this for a few times before discarding it completely.

 

 

1.Approach.Mindset.Be like the other person so that he will like you.

2.Don’t haggle for the Price immediately.First build a Rapport.

 

Social confidence system free Tips to get your social confidence back

Question: I have lost my social confidence after my breakup with my ex Girlfriend and i don’t know how to talk to people anymore.I freeze up and for everything I say i am worried that i will just sound stupid and that people won’t like me.Please help me with some advice to get my social confidence back

Answer:
You are left to survive in a forest and you have to kill a wild boar with your hand gun to eat your first food after 4 days.
What will you aim at?
The Boar?
No
It’s fleshy thighs?That you desperately want to taste?
NO!
To kill the boar you have to aim at the most vulnerable point in it’s body.You aim at it’s forehead,in between its eyes.
For a moment you forget your hunger,you forget about returning home,you forget the boar,you forget everything
All that exists before you is the Forehead of the boar.And when you Pull the Trigger if your bullet hits its forehead the whole boar is yours.

*****************Story End**************
Now…you have a serious problem of freezing up and going blank during conversations.
You cannot go on for long unless you kill your Problem(Your wild Boar)
Your are focusing on the whole problem(whole big wild boar) and wondering can i kill this big problem with this tiny handgun(Self help techniques and advises)

What you have to do is identify the easiest part of your problem that you are sure you can do if you put some effort in to it.
Forget about having a Great conversation with your boss for some time.
How about using the baby steps Principle.We will reach the Target line one baby step at a time.You can fall….you can crawl
But take one baby step at a Time.

What about first perfecting your conversation with your Apartment watchman first…or
How about befriending the Junior guy that joined your office by having a friendly conversation?

Take one Tip at a time and implement it in your life.

So where is my Tip…you ask…

Before giving you the Tip,i want to share something that i was taught in my NLP classes.
They Taught me,Listen closely to what the Subject says…They might be literally giving out the solutions to their own Problems.
Just that they don’t realize it and all you have to do it make them realize that it is the solution to the problem.

Now,Coming back to your Problem,You said…

I just don’t know how to talk to people anymore I freeze up and everything I say on worried will just sound stupid and that people won’t like me.

I bet you have a internal dialogue that says that exact same thing over and over in your mind.You are hypnotizing yourself that you are
sounding stupid and people don’t like you.And,It seems your mind has done a good job too.

So Just catch yourself when your self dialogue says something negative next time and when you catch it you have to kill it.
You have to kill the negativity by saying a Positive affirmation like ‘I am getting more and more confident with conversing with People
and they like me’.Something like that…what i gave is just an example.

You have to start doing something.Don’t be one of the people who keep reading Tips and techniques to become confident but don’t
Practice any of them in their real life.

Sample confident conversation examples between a man and women

How to have the confidence to talk to people and make them continue the conversation
The number one fear that prevents people approaching another human being and have a nice conversation is not the fear of approach.It is the fear of running out of things to say in the middle of conversation.I have planned to give two examples of how a shy guy will approach the conversation with a random girl and then how a Confident Guy takes the conversation to the next level with confidence.

The following is the conversation between a girl and a not so confident shy man.

Confident Conversation examples
Confident Conversation examples

Shy guy:Nice bike.I am planning to buy this same brand for my sister.How comfortable is it to ride?
Girl:It’s fine.
Shy guy:Okay.(Thinking in mind ‘She is not talking to me’ and already exiting the conversation)

<Note:Now most shy guys stall at this point and are stuck thinking what to say next.They think the girl is uninterested and wants you to go away.
Most of the time it may not be the truth but it is just the way you read the situation.You have to consider the body language of the other person in this kind of situations.When you approach a person look if they just turn only their upper body towards you or their whole body towards you.In other words notice where their foot is pointing.If it is pointing towards you that means they are interested and okay with having the conversation with you.You can continue the conversation as long as they keep their foot pointing at the general direction you are standing.If they are responding to you by just turning their torso or upper body towards you and their foot’s big thumb is pointing some where else that mean’s they are ready to move and in that case it is best for you to let them go.>

Some of the Confident guys will still continue the conversation like below…
Confident guy:Nice bike.I am planning to buy this same brand for my sister.How comfortable is it to ride?
Girl:It’s good.
(Confident guy notices her body language.It doesn’t seem that she is ready to move away.Time to throw the next punch)
Confident guy:How long you waited after booking the bike.I heard for this model there is a 1 month wait time.
Girl:I got no idea.
<Note: Shy guys would have went home locked their door and cried at this point thinking that the girl is ignoring.But Confident guys are curious. They ask a simple question…because the only feeling they have at this time is CURIOSITY>
Confident guy: WHY?
<Note:Now she has to open up.A ‘why’ question requires a detailed answer and cannot be answered in single words.The more you get people to talk with you the more comfortable they will feel in talking with you>

Girl:Oh!I got no idea because this is my friend’s bike.I came to buy stuff for her birthday party.
Confident guy: So you must be in a party mood tonight.
<Note:Note how the smooth talker tries to change the Topic from Bike to Party mood.Shy people would have kept on talking
about the Bike for a long time and the Girl would have got bored and said sayonora already>
She: <Silence>
Confident Man: And your friend should be having a nice taste of things. She’s got the best looking bikes and friends.
<Note:Complement them.Don’t complement them openly.Complement them indirectly.This is a whole art in itself but the above complement should give you some ideas)
She: Still silent but this time smiles and blushes a bit.
Confident Man:Have you finished shopping for the party?Because i can suggest some things to buy that is a must for the party…
Girl: Hmmm.I can use some help.I have never organised a party…
<Note:And the conversation goes on and on until it ends after they turn off the lights and go to sleep.Ok that may be a little bit exaggerated but it will go on until the Confident Guy parts with her number)

Take aways from the above conversation:
1.Don’t just listen to what they say and base your decision on it.Be Aware of how they say it.Read their body language.Time your
response based on it.
2.Don’t just give up and end the conversation at the first instance of resistance.
If you are given a hand gun and asked to shoot a
bottle at a distance and your life depended on shooting it…will you quit the first time as soon as your bullet miss the target?
You have five more bullets and you will not quit till you empty all the five bullets…Right?
Then why are you holding back your bullets in a conversation?
3.Always be Curious.Confidents are Curious.You can be as good at Confidents by just being genuinely curious to know more about the other
person.
4.Always give a complement.And the complement should be indirect and discreet,at least in the beginning.
5.If the other person is a girl and you are interested in her move to Flirting as early as it is practically possible in the conversation.
6.Change the conversation topic regularly.Notice how the confident guy Started talking about bikes…then about party…then about shopping for
party etc…Otherwise the conversation will become boring.